It's been a very difficult
few days. It turns out that what the hospital doctor thought was fluid
retention in the wound was actually a really nasty infection brewing. By
yesterday, everywhere on my right hand side between my waist and my face was
swollen back and front, and I was unable to put my hand down by my side. The
pain has been indescribable. Last night I went to see my GP as an emergency,
and he immediately put me on high doses of antibiotics, as well as prescribing
yet more heavy-duty painkillers.
This morning, despite all the new medication, I was even worse. By lunchtime I
was shaky and shivery, and unable to talk properly. My lovely Dad came home and
took control - he rang the GP's surgery and assertively insisted on
talking to a doctor - who told him to call the hospital, which he did, and was
equally assertive. WM dropped everything all over again to take me straight up
there - and the same doctor I saw on Tuesday was there, and this time he tried
to drain the wound. All very frightening, emotional and painful, with
scary-looking equipment including a thick needle, tubing and a bottle, but not
much came out.
I came home, feeling worse than ever, and went straight back to bed. I've
hardly left my bed over the past couple of days. I slept until nearly 10pm, and got up, and just felt significantly better. Not
right, and still very ill and in quite considerable pain that even the most
heavy-duty of analgesia are barely touching, but better, and I think finally
the antibiotics have kicked in and I've turned the corner.
In 5 days time I'm back at the hospital, where I'll get the results of all the
histology reports following my surgery, and for the first time since diagnosis
we should all have a much clearer picture of exactly how bad this cancer has
got, and what plans they have to banish or diminish it. It's all quite
daunting, and it would have been really helpful if I could have had a few days
of relative strength and wellness to enable me to get my head in the right
place to cope with the next onslaught of news and treatment. You can only play
with the deck of cards you've been given, though, so I'll have to find a way of
getting my fighting spirit back on track regardless.
During those surreal weeks between diagnosis and surgery, I read everything I
possibly could about cancer, it's causes, and it's cures. The more I read, the
more convincing the evidence became that there is so much I can do for myself
to regain my health. Everyone has cancer cells, but some people develop it
while others don't, and with positive changes in lifestyle, those of us with
cancer can significantly increase the odds in favour or our own survival. In
the weeks before the operation, I had made huge changes to my diet, but since
the surgery, I have been so ill that I've reverted to "a little of what
you fancy does you good" and have been comfort eating like crazy. Today
that stops, and I'm back to the "anti-cancer" diet. Those of you who
know me well will know that exercise is not something I enjoy or am good at,
but regular exercise can also up the odds. Then there is adopting a calm
attitude, meditation, proper sleep and rest, stress avoidance, and remaining
hopeful - all things that just are not me at all, but somehow I've got to
embrace them, at least for the next few months while this cancer has the
audacity to threaten my life.
On Wednesday of next week I'll get to find out how much of a threat it actually
is. By then, I need to be strong, determined and resolute. I also need to have
started moving in the right direction of the "anti-cancer lifestyle"
and take control over this wretched thing. There is masses I can do to improve
my chances of being in that long tail of the graph that represents the cancer
survivors, and never giving up hope is the most powerful tool there is. My aunt
is now 84. In 1981 she had cancer, and two years later it returned with a
vengeance. In those days there was no treatment available for the seriousness
of her condition, and she was given 6 months to live. 29 years later, she is
living a full and very active life, still driving, still fiercely intelligent
and quick, still loving every minute of her "borrowed time". I've
always thought the world of her, but now, she is my role model too.
I'm really cross that this infection has robbed me of a precious few days of
what would otherwise have seen me well, strong and happy before facing up to
next week's news. There's absolutely no reason why I can't still be happy over
the next few days, and concentrating on mental strength and well-being even if
physically I'm not as great as I'd like to be. I've just got to focus and get
my head around it all, and with the terrible pain subsiding by the hour, once I
set my mind to it, it should be a walk in the park.
