hi there
my dad retired last year & being not one to stop started a part time job well it wasn't to long before he got restless moved through 3 other part time jobs finally accepted retirement when he was in a lot of pain & physically unable to work.
went to the docs sent for chest scan & diagnossed as having oesphegal cancer that is also in his stomach ,lymph glands etc he has just had his 3 chemo session & is having another scan to check on progress this thursday.
he was initally given 6 months is this normal to put a time limit on this sort of thing do they work this out on how much treatment that they think he can take.
he is diseapering before our eyes not a quiter by any means but i can see he is in a lot of pain & when does someone call a halt to the treatment then how much longer will he last ? so many questions that i want to ask but never one to sit & ask someone face to face. CAN ANYONE HELP PLEASE ????
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I do advice Su-jok acupuncture.
It can operate with much more efficient energy paths compated to
classic acupuncture, as they're situated on remote parts like forearm, palm, fingers, which makes healing much faster and more efficient.
Additionally to needles and moxibition, there's also treatment
by magnets, light including laser very low-energy beams [like a pointer], gemstones and plant seeds, which are unique as they add
their energy stored for grouth, to patient's body.
There are schemes potentially effective not only for cancer but also for drug addiction and even genetic disorders.
But!! - this must be done by really qualified person.
Cancer is "two-faced" in nature which, to not go deep
in explanations, may often require 180* changing strategy at some clue points, so one may speed up cancer proliferation if overlooks this.
I'm very sorry to hear about your Dad's situation, and I know that it is really hard watching from the sidelines as someone loses weight and presence. It may be that given the spread, the chemo will actually be stopped as it is so aggressive towards the whole body, affecting not just the bad cells but unfortunately the rest of the system as well, and it might be decided that your Dad will be better off not having to cope with the side-effects of the chemo as well. They are obviously monitoring this very closely to be doing a scan after only 3 sessions. Of course they might decide to proceed, and I know it will be torture waiting for results.
Is your Dad still able to take ordinary food? There are lots of products on the market that are very nutritious that can be given in a liquid form. It's not unusual anyway to lose weight on chemo as it sends taste buds haywire, causes nausea, and just puts us off a lot of foods.
Please keep us posted with the latest developments. Wishing you the very best of luck xxx Penny (given 3-4 months to live, and still going fairly strong 16 months later).
How sad I am reading your situation. It is a very hard time for you all at the moment and one that will cause you to keep questioning yourselves as to weather or not you are doing the right things.
It really is up to your dad to decide if he wishes to carry on with treatments or not. Whatever his decision will be the right one for you all to follow. As long as you have plenty of support from the hospital, hospice and Macmillan around you. If any of them are not present then call and make yourself known to them as they are a tower of strength. Dont be afraid of the Hospice as they are a great way of getting meds sorted out and giving the family a few days or more respite. My husband went in 3 times and each time he came home stronger and rested and much happier for it.
But most of all, you have all got to look after yourselves. By way of eating properly and getting rest even if it is a round of golf. But you cannot be there 100 per cent if you wear yourself to a frazzle.
I wish you all the very best and send you much needed love and (((HUGS)))))))))))))
yes dad is taking liquid food & when he can manage it "proper food" as well he spits feathers when he misses his sunday roast !!
he is having his scan because he is also on a drugs trial to see what effect they ,if any,have on his cancer.
saw him today he said he felt better i must admit he had a speck of colour back in his cheeks . yes it is very hard to see someone that has been there for you practically incapable of doing anything. i look forward to the results of the scan but i wsh there was a magic wand to take all the unknown stuff away we have 4 young girls 8yrs,7yrs,4yrs & 1yr
i find it incredibly dificcult to talk to them about dad without crying.
oh heck here thy come better go & help with the tea talk some more soon if that is ok
Heybert - you cannot deal with all of this alone. Has a cancer care nurse not been assigned to your Dad? What about your Dad's GP? Surely, he/she would be able to answer at least some of your questions. They also have a nurse on this site whom you can send a message to with any kind of general questions. I can hardly believe that you seem to be out there on your own, it's not right! I so wish that I could answer your questions, but the next best thing I can do is advise you to get the help you really do need. It is out there, so mayb get your Dad's GP on the phone, and get him/her to put the wheels in motion, ok? I'd be really pleased to hear of any progress you make, and I'm so sorry that you are having to witness your Dad fight this disease.
One note; doctor's use statistics when they decide to inform us of how long we have left to live, but I was advised by a very wise woman that these were only NUMBERS pulled out of the air, ok? NO ONE knows when we are going to die. Don't lose heart - you're not alone on this site, with love from kate xxxxxxxxx
