Back at work

Hi Gill

That's what we are here for to help when you are down, listen to you ramble or just to chat

Take care

Love Teri

Hi Gill (still sending hugs to you) I think it is called getting back to some normality... I am back at work and all I get is 'are you alright' , 'are you cured' Arghhhhhhhhhhh! Some times your expected to just carry on like nothing happend, it doesn't quite work that was. Always come on here and say what is on your mind, your friends are here and listen....Take care....love Carol x

Hi

Thank you so much for your words and hugs it is much appreciated and it is good to know there are people to talk to.  I dont think people understand if they have'nt been through it and they think that once you had had operation and back to work that is it but as you know it isnt.  I have another scan in December to see if they managed to take out all the cancer and if not another operation is looming but that is another step for another day.  Once again thank you so much for being there Teri and Carol ....love Gillx

Hi Gill I understand what you are saying I had my kidney removed on August the 1st this year In had a scan on the tuesday saw the consultant friday and told I had cancer {my mum died from kidney cancer} and nephrectomy on the Monday.everything happened very quickly for me and I had no time to think or dwell on it.Since I have been told that I had a stage 2 cancer and that they got it all but also informed I have a nodule on my lung but they will just keep an eye on it they dont seem worried but of course I am they will re scan in December and back to consultant in January.I think because everything happened so fast I did not have time to sort it all out in my mind and like you put on a brave face to everyone as dont like to upset my family or friends with my worries and fears.I spoke to Rose Woodward I found her on the James Whale site she is a kidney cancer survivor who campaigns for people like us she helped me make sense of how I was feeling describing it as like a bereavement the loss of how things used to be before cancer changed my life I too felt I had nothing to complain about as many are much worse off I but could not help the way I felt I also found support here on this site as here you can express how you feel and gain understanding from others.I guess for work colleagues and for some others that once the operation is over and you appear to be back to normal they assume that is that I found the physical healing of the wound much faster than the psychological wound much faster I know it is an old saying but it takes time be kind to yourself seek support when you need it all good things  Chris  [AKA Scraton}xxx