Is this just self pity?

Big hugs and it will be OK. You're just feeling what we've all felt. It feels like I've felt what you describe, all too often. Sometimes just staying in bed is OK. It allows us to recuperate our minds as well as our bodies. So if you feel like it, stay there today. It's ok. They'll be something that needs you to get out of bed sooner or later and that's when you'll start feeling better again.

I've just had a look at your biography. I can't imagine what it must feel like going through this for as many years as you have, but I do know what it's like to get divorced and the stress that goes along with it. I suspect that the stress from my divorce led to my cancer. I also know about migraines, wallowing in bed, and depression. You've had 4 years of dealing with this well and only the last couple where things have gone down hill a bit. One thing I do know though, is that you're not alone here. We are all here to support you. We all have experience of different cancers and I know that everyone on here is amazing and will give you the holding you need. It may only be on an emotional level, but it really makes a difference.

((((((((((((((( Big hugs ))))))))))))))))

Monna xx

Hi

It is so perfectly absolutely fine for you to stay in bed, your bed is where you feel safe and warm and that is your body telling you it's where it wants to be right now.

I feel guilty laying in bed as i have a 14yr old daughter and my mum is staying with us so she is looking after her at the moment, but they tell me off when i say i feel guilty, because they know i need time to heal and rest. And i hear your loneliness as a single parent i also miss having someone close to give me long hugs and say everythings going to be alright. My duvet cover is  getting me through so much i just hug it continuously. Stay strong i am thinking of you xxxxxxx

I think the girls above have said everything.  Consider yourself cyber hugged from all on this site.....we are right behind you - albeit silently unless you switch this box on ;)

Debs xx

Another cyber hug coming your way.  They are right, it will get better - your body is coping with an awful lot and it needs time to recover.  You will feel better honest.  

Much love

Carol xx

If you feel like staying in bed then that is th eplace you need to be. Listen to what youor body is saying. I felt a bit sniffy the other day so lonuged upstairs all day.

And like everyone has said, you are never alone on here and will get lots of tlc and hugs whenever you need them.

Love Kathx