My first Christmas & New Year without him

Hi Sheila,

Sorry you had such a sad Christmas. Unfortunately

its all part of life. Will you ever be happy again. Yes but it will take time. Is there life after death of a Partner Yes and I think he would want you to have one. All the best and good luck for the future.

Take care and be safe Big Hugs Love Sarsfield.xx

I am very sorry for your loss!

I am speaking from experience when I tell you that yes there is life after the loss of a partner!

I lost mine 5 years ago and eventually things did get better.

You will never stop loving your partner, the pain will always be there, but it do's ease to a dull ache.

I still felt my loss this year, it do's put a shadow over the procedings but it do's not spoil them.

No matter what time of year your loved one died, poignant times in the year will always be affected.

The first of everything is the worst.

Things will get better, but it takes a long time. You will know when the time comes. After the fog has left you will start to heal.

There is no right or wrong way/time for grief, each person is different. It takes as long as it takes. Don't let anyone tell you otherwise.

All the Best for 2011.

Love Julie xx

Hi really sorry to hear of your loss,

i lost my husband just 3 weeks ago and i dont know what to do with myself.

he was 41 and im 35, we have no children, i was his carer 24/7 and now i dont know what to do with myself. the house feels so lonely and seeing his things everywhere hurts so much. I feel so cheated and like u im so glad xmas and new year over, but now everyone else's life back to normal but mine isnt. It hurts so bad and i miss him so much, just want to hug him. One day at a time i guess is all i can do xx

So sorry to hear about your loss Sheila - but I too echo your thoughts about being glad that Christmas & New Year are finally over.

Is there life after the death of a partner? Well at times, I've doubted it myself; but 8 months on for me, there are remnants of a life I suppose, although it will never be the same as it was before.

A little while ago, I read something which tried to explain what it was like for someone to continue with life once they have lost someone very dear to them. (I think it was in response to the nonsense phrase " time is a great healer.") In the piece I read, losing someone was compared to someone losing a limb - time will never heal this person, as their missing limb will never grow back - what the person does is that they have to adjust to their new life. In a way, I can see where the person was coming from when they made this comparison, but given the choice, I would rather have lost a limb than my fiance!

Take care & be kind to yourself.

PP.