4pm ramble & thanks!!

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wow i really am touched by the amount of you that have commented or sent me a message saying my rambles make you smile and that your sadly in same boat :( i am glad that in my own little madness i can offer support and comfort to others.

i just wanted to mention my mum, i feel sometimes those closest get forgotten - i know my mum is trying to stay strong, like me and my sister but she lives with dad, sees him daily at his best & worst and it must be difficult seeing the man you love suffer with this horrid illness.

i know when dad was admitted into hospital last november i felt just as useless but its only now i realise how hard it is for my mum as she is often forgotten, folk ask how her husband is but not many ask how she is - thats why i make a point of asking her daily too and let her know im thinking of her too.

dad is really struggling today (day after 1st ecx) its hit him and mum is in the garden distracting herself - i think she feels if she falls apart then dad will - i dont know yet again i am rambling....

point i want to make is please please dont forget those that live with those suffering with cancer - they are often forgotten, swept aside and they are struggling in silence - yes im a daughter but im not around my dad 24/7 i have a break from seeing him, mum doesnt.

hugs from thisbutterfly on this lovely afternoon (yup i did finally sleep!!)

xxx

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  • FormerMember
    FormerMember

    I agree with you, I am making a point of phoning my stepdad daily to ask how is he, but he is in his own little bubble at the moment and prefers his own company. Its difficult the woman he loves so much was only diagnosed 2 wks and has gone downhill so quickly.  I worry for him so much. But as daughters we want to protect them both but we mustn't forget our own families.  Boy how are we going to do it ?  

  • FormerMember
    FormerMember

    See, I always hoped nothing would happen to either of my parents until I had my own kids & family because I sort of felt like it would be a distraction & maybe it wouldn't hurt quite as much because I'd have new priorities. But you guys are proving that theory to be wrong.

    In fact it is probably worse for you, because I have just semi moved back home to my parents (altho I only live around the corner anyway!) because I feel like I want to see my dad every second that I can. It must be harder if you have your own kids to deal with.

    Muchos respect to you!! xx

  • FormerMember
    FormerMember

    I dont think it is any easier or worse for any of us.  In truth we all feel bloody helpless. Seeing a loved one suffering is never easy. We will all find a way to cope through it somehow. I am feeling quite positive today, ( although tomorrow might be different story ) but that is the nature of this horrible disease.  My theory at the moment is just take one day at a time.  xx