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Hi just thought i'd say hello as things are a bit rubbish this morning after losing my mum in law to liver cancer during the night. Although we knew the end was near I feel as thoughI am standing in quicksand and can't get out. Liz was very brave and battled for 3 years undergoing various treatments, but in the end they stoped everything 8 weeks ago. Two weeks ago she was taken to a hospice for 'building up' but driffed in and out of sleep for the last 2 days of life. Although she was sedated and had pain killers there moments of conciousness where she begged for us to help her. This is tearing me appart as we could do nothing. I can't bear the thought that she may have been frighteed. Thanks for listening. Magpie x

Hi Maggie,

Please don't beat yourself up. There are often situations where we can do nothing and have to leave it to the professionals. I'm sure your mum in law was in the best place for pain control which is a very special skill which hospices are very good at.

Your mum in law sounds as though she was a great fighter.

There is a "Bereavement" group and if you post there I am sure you will get support from people going through the same emotions as you.

Big hugs,

Colin xxx

Hi Magpie,

thanks for getting in  touch - she was a brave lady and so are you, as Colin said do get some group support.. its sounds as though you were both lucky to have each other and she must have felt very loved. Take care...xx

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