Feeling isolated

Hi Nicola,

Stop beating your self up ! - You are grieving and in anyones terms it is no time at all since your loss and the funeral. There is a hole in your heart and also a hole in your life. You have spent almost every waking moment for so long with your life revolving around your care and concern for 'Pops', you cannot just turn these emotions off so soon, always remember  how much easier you made his last days.

We all heal at our own rate and you life will not  return to normal in only a few days so stop expecting it to - it will take as long as it needs - but Will get better.

You have a loving caring husband who has has been ready to support you for so long - he has done this because he loves you - much like you loved 'Pops'

He will continue to support I have no doubt. So take a deep breath - maybe tell Hubby you know you are being tough on him - but that you love him - bet a cuddle will help both of you !!

Hugs to you and yours

J x

Hi Nicola,

J,s hit the nail on the head. You have just lost Pops

you have to give yourself time to come to terms with his death, it wont be easy, theres a long hard road ahead. You will need your husband by your side to give eachother support and strength.

You will always have a place in your heart for Pops,

and he will always be by your side. Its been a hard couple of months for you both. Sit down and talk about your feelings. dont keep them to yourself or you will end up being  ill. All the best.

Take care and be safe Big Hugs Love Sarsfield.xx

Hi Nicola,

Hay what you are going through is oh so very normal, grief is something that cannot be rushed.  Others may not be apart of your grief process and will just carry on as normal, they will not understand what and how you are feeling.  Nicola, you have to take a day at a time, you have been left with a huge void and will take a long time for you to get through this so do not expect a quick fix it does not work that way, it does not matter how long it takes but eventually it does ease up.  Your husband sound like he has been there for you its not easy for him having to see you upset. As John has said you need to talk to him and express how you are feeling do not shut him out.  Pops will be watching over you so he will always be in your heart.

Big hugs to you,

Jan xxxxxx

it takes time to get your head around things give yourself some credit!!! life does go on aorund us we can't change that but... you have all your memories no one can take away from you. as for work, i'm sure pop will be proud of you trying to get your life back on track hope you not going back too soon??

Hi Nicola, you are perfectly normal hun!  It's been 3 1/2 months since my mum passed away and I am still feeling much as you describe so don't beat yourself up about it.  You are grieving and it will take its own time.  Take care of yourself and try not to be too hard on your hubby.  Love and hugs.  Caroline XX