Final few days

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I just wanted to finish off this blog with a final update, it has been almost 4 months since Dal passed, and I can honestly say that I have never experienced a pain or dis-jointment (if that is even a word) like this in my life. 

Dal fought to the end, we had hoped and prayed for a greater miracle, but my magician performed his magic, along with the NHS for over 5 years, and although in the end, he lost his life due to the draining of the Ascites fluid not being monitored closely resulting in Hypovolemia which was noted as the main cause of his death, he fought to the end.

Dal always had a high pain threshold, when he was nearing the end, he couldn't cope with the level of pain that he was in, he wasn't ready to give up, but he really couldn't deal with the increased swelling, the pressure on his organs, the back pain which was the area he struggled with most. 

Dal was and will always be a superstar, a fighter, a great example of never giving up, A Magician against this deadly disease, but, near the end he also hid some of the pain, he didn't want to believe things had got worse and this stopped him going back to the hospital for several days, no amount of persuading could make him, when he did, we were advised that he had suffered from a malignant ascites and liver lesion ruptura (as noted on his death certificate) which had spread into his stomach. It is sad to read that the Cancer itself was the 3rd noted reason.

I just want to say thank you to everyone who travelled this journey with us, he did do amazing, and often your worlds of encouragement helped him with that. 

I am not sure what is next for me, but I hope to be able to come back to the forum in time. 

Lowe' x

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  • Hello Lowe. I'm so sorry to read your blog entry. I've not been on the forum since shortly after Rod died. It seems you had far more details about what was happening to Dal in his last few weeks. It sounds very similar to Rod's experience, with the unbearable swelling and problems with draining the fluid. You were both a great inspiration for us for a few months. I was reflecting on my time on the forum over the weekend while talking to our elder daughter. She said I was obsessed. I replied that I just desperately wanted to read something to give us some hope. I found it in your posts. 

  • My heartfelt condolences to you, Lowe. You had such a special relationship. We try hard to just focus on our good times and take pleasure in life. It's what Rod wanted. 

  • Thank you Loz,  

    It was also good for us to have you guys along on this journey, as difficult as it had been for all of us, just knowing there are others who have an inkling of an understanding is all that we can ask for.  I do hope that you are able to keep focused on the good days, the best days and of course on the deep love that you both shared.. that is what I am trying to do xx 

  • Thanks for the update.  It's always sad when this happens.  My thoughts are with you all.  

  • I am sorry to read your latest blog entry. So sorry it turned into a difficult and painful ending. Wishing you all the best as you continue to try to process what has happened and adjust. My advice would be not to rush into any major changes, you do need time to work out what is best for you.