my dad has had prostae cancer for 2years now,he will be 80 this year,he was coping ok with his medication and being monitored.since last sept things have got alot worse,and the cancer has spread to his bones,dad had a blast of radiotherapy on his spine in october,which helped with the pain.he has aways made it clear to his oncoligst he didnt want radiation treatment or chemotherapy.he has always been so robust,and now he is getting weakerand looseing weight.he hates taking pills and he know thinks they are makeing him feel unwell,he is such a stubborn old paddy and i dont know what to do to make things better.
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He's your dad, you love him. Up to a point, what he says goes. Does he know all the alternatives? Has he got a Macmillan or other oncology nurse he can talk things over with?
Otherwise, all you can do is to give him all your love and have some fun with him.
thank you for getting in touch,i am going to see my dad next week.we will be going to see the oncologist,and hopefully i will be able to persuade him to talk to someone from the paliative care team! fingers crossed.
Sorry to hear about what you and you're dad is going through, it's a horrible feeling, when my dad was diagnosed with this, i was so scared for him and still am now, he was very quiet and diden't want to talk about it, he is so brave, he never moans at the pain much.
I know how you feel that you want to make things better for him, it is so hard, just be strong and lease you're there for him :) take care
