Gone too Soon

orr so sorry u lost your father jayne i get so angry like u say why not a murder or rapist not our parents hope u r ok x

Im so sorry to read this ,you are so right all the bad buggers live long healthy lives and the good decent ones always suffer. if you still have to pay some of the funeral ask if you can pay it up. I had to do that when my brother died 2 yrs ago, I know it sounds horrible but the funeral was costing £3000 and that was not a fancy one( think I went to a dear place) they did let me do it on standing order, this might help you slightly with the burden of trying to find the money for it. but try to find some solice in the fact that your dad is at peace now,tho I know that this prob wont help you any with your grief,margo 1971 xx

I am so sorry.  we had a similar experience, seven weeks from dignosis and my lovely Mum passed way.  It was all a blur really and I still cannot beleive what has happened since November.  I must however, say that I did do the WHys and the real anger...but they took me to a place that scared me, and to be honest they didnt help me at all....my Mum was a wise thing, and her big word for dealing with this, was ACCEPTANCE, so I have decided to accept that i cannot change what has happened, and that I must live, and survive this somehow....its sooo hard tho....but death is never fair for those we love....but we must hold onto the fact that they are at peace and no longer in pain, this is hard for all of us that are left behind now, but not those we love.  on the practical front, you should maybe look into some of the help you can receive with the funeral...my dad wasnt entitled to any for my mum, but there are a few options available to people to help with funeral costs, the pensions people have the info...its worth  try...look on line thats where i found it and you should claim it if you can.....best wishes and my heart goes out to you xxx

Im very sorry to hear about your dad, I have just gone through the exact same experience. I lost my dad on the 19/12, he was only diagnosed on the 1/12. I dont think it has hit any of us yet, the adrenaline is still going as we have had so much to do.

with funeral costs here in northern ireland,we joined the credit union and pay so much each year and funeral costs are paid for intotal over two thousand but we dont have to worry one about that thankfully as we couldnt afford it ourselves.

I hope you get through this difficult time and if u need to chat dont hesitate to mail me...

Thank you everyone for your kind comments.

We are applying for a funeral grant, and the undertakers knew this, but still wanted the money up front! Hopefully we'll get all of the remaining money and maybe some of that we borrowed but we have to wait for the final bill before we can apply! You should see the form...minefield isn't the word!

I'll be blogging about the rest of the events over the last week or so, plenty has happened, including a family rift becoming wider!!!

Thanks again

xxx