Not coping

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FormerMember

20 Oct 2009

I'm not coping well at the moment. I feel that I've let everyone down, especially my daughter who is 42 and 7 months pregnant. I've always helped her out with the children, who are 13, 9 and 6, and just feel so much for her. She is being so brave, but is not well herself, and her husband has recently been made redundant, so I help out financially, as I don't think it will help me having money in the bank, although it's not much. I just wish I could draw the clock back two months ago, when everything was fine. People say Chris, you look so good, although I am an old bird, 67, and now I look like 107, but don't ,much care what I look like at the moment. I go into hospital on Friday 23rd for a masectomy. I' ve had too much to drink at the moment, it's the only way I can cope at the moment. Sorry to be so inane.

CHRIS

FormerMember over 15 years ago

Hiya Chris, Take a big deep breath theres lots going on ,try and calm yourself down for your op, thats the most important thing, think good thoughts and stop worrying about everyone else, you can worry about them all when you are getting better, your daughter will be worried about you to, but it dosent do any of us any good we have to just get on with all the treatment and whatever else and then deal with things, having a drink can sometimes bring out horrible feelings, hope you feel better tomorrow, sorry if I sound harsh but you do have to just concentrate on your op and getting better, look after yourself, and look forward to your daughters new baby, my heart goes out to you, thinking of you all take care, and hope all goes ok with your op. PS I am sure you dont look 107 lol Lily
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FormerMember over 15 years ago

Cancer certainly doesn't make life easy and it never comes at the right time, if there is a right time. As Lily has said, take a deep breath and get ready for your op, I'm sure your daughter understands that you'd do whatever you could for her, but now is not the time. Your op will soon be over and you'll be on the road to recovery.

Take care Chris

Angela x
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sue G over 15 years ago

Hi Chris

I had a mastectomy in April 08 followed by chemo and radiotherapy. Am fine now and looking forward to reconstruction in early 2010. Its a long road but you will get there.

Its time for you to think of yourself now. Am sure your daughter understands.

Good luck for Friday.

I did not look in the mirror too much when I lost my hair. Am an old bird like you 60 a couple of months ago. Looking like me again now.

Love

Sue x x x
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FormerMember over 15 years ago

Aww Chris

I think Sue and Lilly are right, firstly calm down the last thing you want is to be wound up and going into hospital. The unknown is alwasy scary, but its never as bad as you think its going to be. I had my mastectomy in Oct 08 and I was out the next day, I didn't have any real pain. Like Sue I had chemo and radiotherapy, at the beginning all you can think of is goodness 8-9mths of treatment, but it soon passes. I found it helped to take each bit at a time and not worry about the next step, it does seem hard when you are three treatments in because you have more ahead of you than behind you - but once you reach the halfway mark you start counting down and can't wait to finish and get on to the next bit.

I am sure your daughter understands and it is time for you now, you will need your energy to recover. I'm sure you don't look 107, but if you feel you do its a good excuse to pamper yourself a little.

Good luck for Friday

Love Carol xx
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