Life expectancy

What a crazy situation all this "life expectancy" stuff is! First of all it is just an average of people who have had a similar diagnosis and does not take any individual factors into account. Also, if you look at the graphs in detail (great set on the cancer uk site) you can see that there is a huge variation in how long people actually do live past diagnosis. That's why they say 6 months or a year or two years etc because its just an average. They never say "5 months" or "14 months"!!

Your life expectancy or your loved ones life expectancy is yet to be discovered. Live for now, enjoy life and take the opportunity that the wake up call of cancer gives us... Don't bloody waste any time on crap!!!!

Love n hugs

Andrew xx

ANDREW, is it just my area or something because i have not many people in the chemo unit or in the hospital etc who were given an amount of time straight off, some people joining hre seem to get a set amount of time given even before any treatment is given....sometimes i get suspicious of all these " hello i was diagnosed last week and given 3 months etc posts" because as i say i have hardley met anyone who was given news like that from day one...especially before any treatment has even started...i dont know, maybe its just in my area that people dont allways get told straight away....even my mac nurse says it doesnt happen that much yet for loads of new members there all getting told 12 months, or 6 months , or a few weeks, or 12 months to two years...

Hi Graeme

When my dad was initially diagnosed last April he was told at his first appointment - before any chemo or radio - that he had 12 months so it does happen.

This info was offered without us asking and I will always be bitter about the Consultant who said it.  It has blighted the last 9 months as it is so hard to get it out of your head.

I am a true beliver that my dad has never been 'average' in his whole life so why should he start now!!  He still looks good at the moment and is working still so I refuse to believe that in 4 months time - when we hit the supposed 12 months it will all be over.  I know it is a possibility but so is getting run over by a bus tomorrow!

Wishing your mum all the best Becx2 - all everyone else - in proving the statistics wrong! xx

Hi Graeme,

I think it was after my 6 weeks of radio,I decided if you dont ask you will worry yourself to death. So on my next visit I asked my Conaultant how long did he think I had left. The answer was simple he couldnt be definate but no more than 3 yrs.The way I think is that Im holding the piece of string,and I dont intend to let it go for a long time yet.

I have a funny feeling you are of the same mind.

Take Care and be Safe.

Sarsfield.

thats it sarsfield...if we worried we could worry ourselfs stupid..also stress is a killer so its best to allways try not to worry...i dont want to worry myself to a heart attack caused by stress..lol....

yup i am of the same mind as you im sure

and dont worry your gonna be here for years yet....and so am i...touch wood.. [ my head ].

charhar ,

yup i know it can happen , but for some reason it seems to be happening to loads of people on here just latelly...maybe the specialists have started to guess more often..i was told once if i did not have the last lot of chemo it could be months but i am sure that was my specialists way of getting me to go in castle hill knowing i am a huge chicken...