Hi All,
I know that this may seem like a slightly strange thing to request but I am searching for people who have lost their spouses who could possibly help me to help my mum.
We lost my dad in December 2008 and even though we have just passed the 1 year anniversary life doent seem to get any better, I miss him constantly and the pain of loosing him still kills me not to mention the mammoth hole that has been blown out of our family still (and always will) remains visible.
You could say that I am lucky as I have a sister who understands my pain from a very similar perspective and I have access to resources for support such as this website.
My mum however has lost her soulmate and she she has no-one who understands from her perspective, dont get me wrong she has mine, my sisters and her sisters complete support but I truly believe she needs to hear from people in the same position as her and who feel the things she feels. Unfortunately my mum doesnt have access to the internet (and wouldnt know how to use it if she did!) therefore making it very difficult for her to source support from like-minded people suffering as she is. She also doesnt drive which makes it hard (and often unsafe especially in winter) to travel to support groups, which we have found are not that close by to where she lives. This places my mum in a lonely position and I feel that there is a gap for people like my mum to reach people going through the same experience as them.
Therefore what I am about to ask may seem old school and slightly odd but I was wondering if there is anyone willing to write to my mum, this way she will have the support she needs and this may make her begin to heal as she will know her feelings are perfectly normal and there are other people out there feeling the same as her. If you feel like this is something you might be able to help me with then please send me a PM and I will give you my address and pass any letters to my mum.
My mum is only 45, nearly 46 and she was with my dad from the age of 16. They were everything to each other and as well as soulmates they were pals, she is lost without him and my heart aches for her....she is a wonderful person and a strong person and the bravest person I know (along with dad) she just needs to know she isnt alone and a helping hand.
She is a wonderful person and a fantastic mum, i love her to pieces and I would so very much appreciate any support you could offer to her and in turn to me.
Many thanks for reading this post
Big hugs and love to you all
Becky
