Bertiebassett Dec 17th

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A week has passed since we got our news that Bert was not to have his Transplant and there was nothing further in the way of curative treatment to be had.

It feels like a month so much has happened. He has spoken to the Mac Nurse at the hospital who in turn referred him to the Hospice Team and they have been out and visited arranged for all sorts of aids to help us in the house, a commode (for later when we might need it)  urine bottles in case he can't get to the toilet,  a wheelchair so we can get him out. (I really need to learn to drive), a mattress that helps prevent bed sores, all sorts of stuff. The District Nurses have been in, The Podiatrist is coming as is the Physio. Also his Psychologist is coming tomorrow.

We have seen the GP and have been allocated 2 named Dr's who will take care of him so we have continuity of care and everyone is talking to each other and getting as much preventative care going on as possible.


Today he needed his first blood transfusion since getting the news his Hb dropped in 2 days from 11 to 8.4 , I did not realise it would all happen so quickly.

Working as a receptionist at the local GP's Surgery I am aware that all of these things that do happen, and of all the people involved, but it feels so strange when they are happening to you.

Bert does not wish to know the prognosis so it is hard  at the moment with all of the people involved in his care. However, I had a copy of the letter sent by the Mac Nurse to everyone involved and it clearly states several times that he does not wish to know so I think that has put his mind at rest regarding someone slipping up and telling him.

We have been at the hospital for 10 hours and he is exhausted so it is off to sleep for us both

Goodnight

Love Teri

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  • FormerMember
    FormerMember

    Hi Teri

    It's good to see that 'the team' have arranged all the necessary aids for Bert. Hopefully it will make life a little easier in the coming months. I don't blame bert not wanting to know his prognosis. When you don;t have a timescale, you can just get on with living life as well as you can.

    Wishing you both lots of love and strength.

    Angela xx

  • Hi Teri, working in health it must feel a bit surreal but it sounds like you have a good organised team supporting you both and that is good.

    Timescales are a guess and so I would be the same and not want an unknown to dominate or influence what I may or may not do.

    Wishing you both good days and cyber hugs

    john x

  • FormerMember
    FormerMember

    Hi Teri

    I have been watching closely and really feel for you both.  It does sound as if the support is getting together to give you as much help as possible.  I too am a medical secretary - which is maybe not good as I know too much - same as yourself.  You are in my thoughts and also my prayers.  I just stott on living in the now and I guess that is the best way for you and Bert too.  It just sems such a shame after all the build up you had to the BMT.  

    wishing you all the strength you need.

    Christine xx

  • FormerMember
    FormerMember

    Hi Teri,

    Sorry to hear about Bertie, it does sound as if your palliative care team are very organised.  Make sure you have whatever they suggest, better to have equipment you might not need, then to suddenly need something on Friday afternoon.

    With love and best wishes Jan XX

  • FormerMember
    FormerMember

    Hi Teri,

    Just echoing what the others have said really - pleased that people are moving so quickly to put things in place. Try to take care of yourself too.

    Lots of love to you both.

    karenx