a shattered world!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Argo,

Big hugs to you and be gentle on yourself.  After just writing a note about the constant 'prognosis clock' forever ticking in my mind, what I do remind myself is, that the predictions and prognosis are merely statistics for a population.  Me and your dad, we are not a population or a statistic, we are individuals.

Your dad may surprise you yet.  So try to keep some belief in him and try to enjoy the now, worry about the rest when it comes.......could be sooner, could be spot on or it could be a LOT later and think of all the good times you might miss through worrying now.

Words are probably cold comfort to you now, but you are among people who understand.

Good luck, love & strength

Debs xx

Argo,

Whatever you do dont stop coming on the site, this is the place to be,as Debs said you are amongst people who understand,what you are going through.

I have lost My eldest sister and brother to this bloody desease,the sad pert was because they lived in Ireland and im in Scotland My Consultant

said I  was unable to travel to see them for the last time. So Cancer has done me twice,I wish at the the time I had a site like this to come on to where I

could come and grieve and talk to pepole like Debs and Carol. They both helped me through a very tough time in my life , in their own way and for that I will always thank them. So for what its worth Argo

dont punish yourself,we are all here to help in anyway we can.

Take care and be safe, Our thoughts and love are with your Dad.

Look after youself and your Family, they will need you more now than ever.and you them.  Love Sarsfield.xx

Argo, my heart goes out to you hun.  I have been where you are just recently.. My dad was diagnosed with advanced bowel cancer in February. It had spread to his liver, spleen and lungs.  He did not get a chance to start chemotherapy as the tumour perforated his bowel and he passed away at the beginning of April.

I was terrified of losing dad. In many ways I have not come to terms with it yet. It is too sad to think about, so I have been putting my grief to one side.

When dad was really ill at the end, I would tell my family when they got upset, that there would be plenty of time for tears and to focus spending as much time with dad and being strong and supportive for him.  They found that a good way to think and I hope you can do that too.

Like Debs has already said, no-one can predict for certain how long someone will live.  There are plenty of people on here who have confounded the doctors and lived a lot longer than expected, so never give up hope.

I hope you will continue to come on this site and get some support as we all know how you are feeling and it can be a comfort.

Best wishes to you in whatever you decide to do. Love to you and your family at this hard time.  My thoughts are with you.

Take care, Christine xx