Is beginning to think, what is the point......

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FormerMember

22 Mar 2010

I beginning to wonder why i bother with alot of people in my life....... the minute they have a problem i am there 100%, but the minute i need some support or someone to cry with or moan abut things they all back off or i get cut off...... i understand they have alot of things going on in their life and i get told ive got a cancer they can cure so i dont really have any right to be upset about it...... but one gets to moan to me about how her placement for uni is and the other about how her life is and i let them, but i feel like i cant say anything about what im going through, as they will just jump on everything ill say...... on friday just gone i spent £30 on food, so we could sit and have a proper girls night in and while it was fun, im left out in the cold and they talk to each other every day, serval times a day...... but i just feel oh its just her..... we will just not bother with her.......... im just beginning to feel that im not worth anything.......

FormerMember over 15 years ago

Unfortunately I've read this kind of story before on this site. Whatever the problem is weith your friends, your new army of cyber-friends on this site are with you all the way. You are a wonderful person, your family love you, so don't give up - we're all here for you. Val XX
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sue G over 15 years ago

Hi

I agree with Val. No one knows how we feel. Even members of my family don't bother to get in touch.

We are here for you sweetie. Giving up is not allowed.

((((((((((((hugs)))))))))))

Sue xxxxxxxxxxx
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FormerMember over 15 years ago

Hi Aofie,

So you have a Cancer that they can cure. These Oncologist Friends of yours say. Well one night you invite them round and all you have to say is which one of you would like to swap places with me. Then you will see what they think.

As Sue says we are all here for you if you want real friends who really care and understand, then look no further than this site. We all have the same thing in common and Im including the Carers who go through all the same things as we do and more.

I hope you will stay on this site. At least you will have true friends who care.

Take care and be safe Love Sarsfield.xx
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FormerMember over 15 years ago

Yes my family rallied around when I first had cancer and then when I went into hospital on 2nd chemo. I have been fairly well on 3rd chemo as they put me on half dose so immediately my sisters started putting pressure for me to take my turn to look after my elderly mum. Yoou would think I had never been sick at all. I still have 3 chemos to go so I don't know how I would feel.

Its amazing how peoles problems are so much worse than cancer and I often wonder how they would react if they were in our place.

Good luck to you all.

Love Pauline. xx
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FormerMember over 15 years ago

Hi,

I think when the going gets tough, you truly find out who is who and I think that you should only surround yourself with those people who want to be there for you. I have quickly realized and have been overwhelmed by the love and support I have received from family friends and colleagues, the flip side of that is quite a few people have not even called, or been at all bothered or have made remarks that are shameful, but the positive me is pushing all that negativity away. Only you know how you feel but we all during these very difficult times need to surround ourselves with positivity!!! I hope you can find that, and I know you will with the people on this site. Stay strong, be positive and sod all those that can't be bothered :-) xx
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