Is beginning to think, what is the point......

I have a neighbour that said going on chemo was a waste of time as I have mesothelioma and they cant cure it.

When I got out of the car on my return from the hospital after have my lung was drained and we

had just found out I had Meso she didn't say hello how are you--she said you wont get any compensation as you once smoked.

We don't need these people they are not our friends I even feel she is disappointed my Chemo is working and is giving me extra time.

I even feel like she thinks I'm making it all up.

Life is to short for all this and I just get on enjoying what life I have left.

As schoolking says Stay strong, be positive and sod all those that can't be bothered --I echo that

Hi i've just been through exactly the same thing asking myself 'where have they gone?', i'm always there to support anyone through their stuff but they'd all backed away from me when i needed them, i was so hurt and upset. I decided to bring it to a head and confront them, it turned out i give out vibes that i'm ok and don't need support. I'm always a smiling, positive person and thought i didn't want to talk about it.They didn't want to risk upsetting me and was waiting for me to ask for their support. Be brave and mention it as sarsfield says and watch that space. As already said we are all here, so much support here and you're not alone,

take care Jenny xx

Hi all, life is short, even without cancer. You feel you dont like someone, dont give them time of day, they are a waste of time. The true friends I have I can count on one hand but I have friends I have met on this site and they are brilliant. When you are diagnosed with cancer trivial things annoy you, thats the angry stage, the "Why me?? stage" True friends help you thru' it, others shy away, they cant handle it. You give them time to understand. The worse types are the "ME ME ME " types, only bothered about their often boring trivial lives and want you to listen to them. I just cut them dead, no point in wasting time on 'em. They only annoy you. This site helps, people who care because they just do. They support you no matter what. A true community if ever I saw one.

Take care ,Bill xxx

I recieved a text at 4-30 am this morning from a me me me so called friend. Haven't seen her for 2 months, how dare she wake me up after a difficult time trying to sleep. Well she is now history! I have decided that the only poeple I want in my life are those who have supported me all the way. Good luck with your friends. love Julie x

I must admit most of my friends have been the opposite.  I have had a difficult 6 weeks, and suddenly everybody wants to come and see my and offer help and support.  I have had cancer for 2 years and only seen them occassionally, but not they alll are all rallying round (and at times I have felt to poorly to talk to anybody!  I think Jenny is right, sometimes they think you are strong and coping and don't realise you need support.  Aske them to do something to help you and see what happens!