WWIII am I being unreasonable & selfish?

Hi hun,

Ita not you, my 16 yr old is the same, she is willing to run down the road and looked after someone elses kids and do for them but here is a different story, you do deserve the kind words and small gestures, (((hugs))) just for you, dont let them get you down hun you need all that energy to concentrate on getting well.

take care love Terri xxx

I remember giving in to the frustration with my kids and wife one day and told them what I thought of them. And that was about 7 years before the cancer!

Felt good to get it out of my system and it did work, well a little bit and for a short time!

Anyway, big hugs from me to you

Andrew xx

Hi Terri

Thank you hunnie, I  have really been struggling with it all for the last few weeks. They still have me with or without the cancer and they do moan and unload on me all the time. But I don't really have anyone to do that with or too.

And I am SO sick of people wanting me to be up beat and positive all the bloody time. When people are well and healthy they have bad days, but it seems that when we are ill we cant have bad, sad or low days, we have to stay up beat and positive and face it head on. But for who's sake? Cos I find ptting on a front and pretending to be ok and that I am coping is as hard and draining  as dealing with the disease, chemo and all the crap that goes with it.

And I am sick of people saying I look good, "NO I DON'T, I LOOK LIKE SOMEONE WITH CANCER, I HAVE NO HAIR, A MISSING BREAST, NO EYE BROWS OR LASHES! ACNE ! HOW CAN ANYONE LOOK GOOD!!!!!!! ARGGGGHHHHHH

Sorry about that, just had to let it flow..........

xxxxx

You rant and rave as much as you want to hun, I think I may very well punch the next person thats says positive mental attitude to me lol. Yes you are allowed to have off days and down days as and when you want to and you do have someone you can offload on anytime you need to, Im on the other end of the line. xxxxx

I live alone which is both a blessing and a curse. I have nobody to consider when I have a dressing gown weekend, nobody to worry over or tidy up after. Children have the luxury of finding it very easy to put things into different compartments (laundry excluded) to not deal with. Parents illness will be something major for them to ignore, because they don't know how to.

Sounds very much your youngest is needing the reassurance of you being there all the time and burying, even from herself, the worry that one day sooner than she imagined - you won't be.

I don't know the answers, why on earth should I? My son brought me home after surgery, dropped me off outside and made his apologies for not staying. The next time I heard from him was 3 weeks later to see if I was coming for Christmas dinner. All we can do is tell you that you aren't going through this alone. Pop into the chat room on here and have a rant at the world, it's almost mandatory and lets you push cancer and kids just a bit further back into second place for a short time.

Bren