WWIII am I being unreasonable & selfish?

Hi WWlll

Sorry to read about the lack of support your getting from your children do you have anyother friends or family that you can get help from? On the bedrooms front I would let them live in them until they are driven out by the mess or smellLOL!! not your problem!that is what I have done in the past.,you need to rest I know it is easier said than done but atleast try.Also doe's your local hospital offer relaxsation therapies such as massage and Reflexology ask your mcmillan nurse she maybe able to arrange this for you it would get you out of the house and give you a few hours peace.

I hope this helps

Loads of Love and positive thoughts Christinexxxxxxxxxx

Not an easy one to resolve but I do think you need to get some outside help. When my mother had terminal concer I got away with a lot because my younger brother was a natural nurse. We had four sons and had no chance of getting any of them to do anything while together but on their own they would help. Sibling rivalry!

Keep smiling

love

Drew

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no you are not selfish to expect the odd cup of tea and some help. at 12 and 14 they are young fit and strong - they can do most things. i have a 15 and 13 year old and they are used to doing their washing and cooking. perhaps make it a game or maybe give them some responsibilty of their own eg make tea one night a week,feed pets etc.the bickering is awful - i've found the best way to avoid it is to give them individual tasks and not to say 'you kids do this' .fatal.

but do expect a lot of them and they will live up to some of it!

When I was a teenager (a hundred years ago!) my father was ill. He had heart problems but looked reasonably healthy. I was the usual horrible teenager and moaned and groaned at the 'inconvenience' (to me) of his illness. I never fully appreciated how sick he was and regret that someone didn't sit me down and shake some compassion in to me. It therefore came as an enormous shock to me when he actually died.

I think what I am suggesting to you is that you ask a third party to sit your kids down and have a serious but unemotional talk to them and explain how hurtful their behaviour is, and how they need to get off their butts and help.

Best wishes

KateG

I think your girls are scared and dont

know how to cope with your cancer, also

they sound as if they are angry with you

for being ill and that you might leave them

Sit down with your girls, tell them you

understand they are scared because you

are also scared, and your fighting this cancer because you have no intention

of letting it beat you, tell them you have

every intention of being there for them

when they one day have children of there

own. But you need there support as you

cant do this on your own, you are all in

this fight for life and you at times feel all

alone and dont feel you get support from them. Tell them you love them so much

and you really at this time need help from

them around the house, the treatment you

are having takes your energy and it also

makes you blue at times, and if you know

there with you when you have good or

bad days you can cope better and get

thru this but you really need them to

understand that you cant do it without them and you need there help sometimes

Your girls love you and you love them

but you have to be more open with them,

girls grow up so much faster these days,

but deep down they are still little girls and

to have to face there mum being ill, when

we mums are in there eyes always strong

and there to catch them when they fall

comes as a shock.Everything will be ok

, so stay strong.

With Love Lucylee. xxxx