Cancer, chemo, angry with kids!!!!

You air your angst Anna. I remember when my boys were teenagers..........nightmare! You've got the added problem of needing chemo, not easy at the best of times. Try not to worry too much about the chemo. They can give you lots of things to help with any side effects. I was told not to put up with anything, but to let them know and something would  be prescribed. I don't like taking lots of tablets but when faced with a feeling sick or taking a pill, I know which I prefer.

Good luck with the chemo on Thursday and I'm sure your video diary will be fine.

Angela xxx

I know exactly how you feel.I also have 2 girls 15 and 11.The 11 year old is great,she knows that im not feeling well at the moment and she helps out round the house, but the 15 year old she could care less.I think it must be there age lol.

Good luck for Thursday.

Essgirl

hi

,i agree with the age thing.....i have 5 children the youngest is only 18 months so has no idea what is going on .....next is my daughter elle-rose who is 7 shes a dream and is constantly hugging me, witing me letters and making little get well cards ...next is my 8 yr old son who says the sweetest things and prays for me  at home and in school everyday bless him lol.....THEN COMES SAM my darling 15 yr old who moans when hes asked to help out even wih the simpliest of jobs ,he can be so argumentative and i get he impression he really doesn't  care one bit ......cancer pffffft think he thinks its nothing more than a common cold .but don't despair my eldest son is 17 in feb and he can't do enough to help ,hes kind caring and very sensitive altho i probably wouldnt have said that nearly 2 years years ago lol.....

good luck & big hugs trudy xxxx

Hello Anna - I feel for you hun - I have 2 teenage girls (14 and 16) and the nly pain they feel is their own I am afraid !! You are going throuhg an extremely emotional and stressful tim and I find my kids are like radio antenna - they pick up on my vibes and then - all Hell is let loose! I think you all have to cut each other someslack - or eles keep out of each others way as much as possible (not easy I know). But you may be surprised at how chemo goes you know - I have had 5 different types now and find the antisickness drugs do work and I don't feel too bad - of course I can onl speak about my own experience but I follow the rules about hygeine and avoiding crowds etc and I have been fine.

Underneath it all your teenager does care. My psychologist told me teenagers often go into denial at times of crisis - especially worrying about the healthof a parent - she also added that denial was infact a brilliant coping method and so I wouldn't worry too much - and I sometrimes think to myself I prefer the normal banter and rows that come with parenting teenagers - at least this part of my life remains 'normal' - ish LOL (the day after my last chemo my 16yr old was screaming at me 'cos I didn't want to drive her to the shopping centre - she's such a drama queen sometimes - I didn't take her)

Good luck on Thursday - top tip - keep a diary of your symptoms so you can work out when you are going tofeel ok thne next cycle you can plan some event in your diary. All the best Jools xx

Nearly put them both up for adoption or on ebay this evening! They had a proper fight, I decided not to engage so sat quietly eating my dinner while all hell let loose around me, screaming, shouting, sobbing, swearing you name it, it was happening!

But by ignoring the drama it was over as fast as it began! Before the cancer I would haveb lown up and exploded at them both, but I cant afford to do that any more.