chat site /fight site

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I now know what has been going on in chat this last week or so and i dont like it . I first came on the site earlly on this year after having just finished five months of chemo for AML. Had been talking to samaritans most nights just to stay sane .when i acme on at first i was a bit out of my depth as i had never been on a chat site before .

The folk on this site asked the useual qeustions what was i what did i have and then they started to help me by telling me what they had been through and how to cope with day to day living again . After a while i tried to help otjers in same situation and i think i did some. What no one ever did was to question my honesty as to weathr i was telling the truth about what i was going through. I have never done that either . ,We all know there have been a few of those . <nutters>who come on here to make trouble or are seriously disterbed and need treatment them selves They have all been found out by diferent means and are no longer on this site .What we have never done is totally dismissed some one for what they say on site just because we dont agree with it .

It seems to me that some on here seem to think they know a lot about all types of C well i dont i dont even know a lot about my own C never mind all the other types . I do know though that this bloody thing does efect different folk in different ways .Even AML i am a lucky one but two friends of mine on site and thier husbands are not and my heart goes out to them . When i was in hospital a friend of mine who i had known since school , his wife was in next iso room to me she went home before me in remission but unfortunatly only lasted six months and she passed away . when i wasan apprentice had a forman who had stomach cancer he was a blacksmith and he worked up to the day hedecided to go to hospitl then only after he had lost four stone and could not keep any thing down he went in they opened him up and sent him home he died a week later.

My own auntie died from bone cancer she did not even know she had it till she fell doown in Sheffield and broke her hip she died a few months later still carrying on as normal till broke her hip. I think this site should get back to doing the thing its meant to do help and suport those who come on here we will all be better for it . I can honestly say i owe my life to macmillon and this chat site and the friends i have found on here especially one my prop she knows who i mean so dont need to embaress her by telling you lot ha. I want to keep coming on but i must admit its getting harder all the time I may have to go to pms only and concentrats on cancer voices dont know yet lets get things back together eh!! still love you all

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  • FormerMember
    FormerMember

    I love "Chat".

    So far I have missed most of the controversy and unpleasantness, therefore my opinion could change if I experienced it.

    I was previously a member of Share and welcome the Live Chat. I am happier using it and PMs than any of the other parts of the new site.

    It is just a pity there is no facility for searching my PMs I cannot at a glance see all the exchanges I have had with any other member, which is a great handicap compared to Share.

    It is a pity Chat cannot be monitored without having to be connected. Maybe if people knew their comments were readable by a wider audience they would be more circumspect with what they write.

    Just my thoughts

    Charles

  • FormerMember
    FormerMember

    I prefer the old share format.  I seem to have lost contact with a lot of friends and have also lost most of my threads. At least I still have my diary, which is very important to me.

  • FormerMember
    FormerMember

    I think that 'chat' is so fast moving that a lot of people dont have time to think and often their comments upset people and cause offence. I dont think they mean to cause offence but if they had more time to think they would word their Q's and A's differently. Personally I dont like chat, I dont think all that fast these days and I would hate to needlessly upset someone.

    Bill xx