......that Dad will not change his drinking habit 'just because' he has cancer. Am I being selfish for wanting him to be sober when I visit him with my 5 and 8 yrs old kids.
He has diabetes too and that doesnt even make him slow down on the hooch.
FormerMember
i really feel for you and I totally understand and know how hard this is for you. Unless you have an alcoholic parent and I lost both my parents to drink ten years ago, no one can ever understand how you feel. This is a subject i never speak about and block out of my mind, the pain of seeing your parents slowly killing themselves is honestly too much to bear and i know how you feel.
My parents took themselves to live in Portugal in the late l980's as booze was cheap and they could afford it there, they sold up a huge house in Kent to live in a caravan in a field and when my dad died a year after mum he left thousands and thousands of pounds in debt and a whole bottlebank of empties. I wont go on anymore as it will be too boring for anyone else, but please try and understand the pain of AJ its not like having a parent with cancer is not enough to have one totally addicted to alcohol and will not come off it no matter what is a feeling of rejection. She must feel, as I did, that me and my children were not worthy enough to live for.
PM me if you want to AJ i really do understand your feelings.
