Aaaaarrghhhhh!!

Hi - welcome to the club that non of us wanted to join!!

If you want help and support you will find that here - probably the site on the net.

Its so hard being strong for everyone else when you are scared yourself - and probably have so many unanswered questions at this stage. How can you answer their questions and sound positive while everything is so new to you ??

We have all been there -  we all go through that numb feeling when we are first told - can't really mean me ! - Cancer only happens to other people, no shame in admiting you are scared - we all are at stage at some time.

What you will find is we are a group of Patients, carers and friends that have all been affected by Cancer in some way.

We try to support each other with our own experiences - we can be sad, funny and at some times plain silly - no disrespect intended - just our way of coping.

In answer to your original question 'Who can you rant at !!' - the easy answer is us - we will listen and we do understand - we have been there or are there now.

If you feel up to it try the chat room - click on the entry on the main menu - promise you will meet some great people - and hopefully make some real friends

Keep ranting - it really does help - even better when you know people are listening

Cheers - look after yourself

John

Well Figgy,

You can shout roar and scream at me or anyone else on this site. You see like it or not your one of us now, one of the Beautiful People. Who just happen to have Cancer.I will give you a bit of advice for what its worth, If you have Cancer the chances are you will get chemo or radio but its someting you are going to have to be strong and positive about.You are not being unreasonable you will be unsure what lies ahead,but until you have had all your tests done and the results back you wont know for sure. You did the right thing by coming on this site if there are any questions you want to ask there will always be somebody here to try and answer. If you look up my Profile it will give you a better idea of what Im talking about. So Welcome to the Madhouse. I promise you you will make a lot of friends on here.

Take care and be safe Big Hugs Love Sarsfield.xxx

Why don't you want to worry your family? I believe if I had kept my diagnosis secret then my family would have felt very hurt. This is what 'family' is all about - caring... sharing... being there for one another. Please share your fears with your family.

Best wishes,

KateG

Hi Figgy

The silent scream - I know it well!  How often have I wished I could find a soundproof room and really let rip since my partner John was diagnosed with cancer?  Hundreds of times!

You rant all you want.  Cancer is scary and you can't fight it on your own.  You need yourfriends and family to know how scared you are.  It's your turn to lean on them.  

You can lean on us too.  There is always someone around to lend a listening ear, to offer advice and support because we all know exactly what you're going through.

Welcome to the site.  I know you won't regret coming in.  The wonderful people here have given me a lot of strength and I know they will do the same for you.

Love and *hugs*

Marjorie x x x x x

Thank you for your kind replies. KateG, I understand what you are saying and believe me, I thought long and hard and decided to tell them because I KNOW how I would have felt had any of them not told me. It just breaks my heart that they have to go through this too.

I must admit, just writing down my feelings earlier on the blog helped a great deal and I certainly feel much calmer now. I think I needed to get it off my chest after 2 weeks of complete calm (not necessarily on the inside :-) )

Again, thank you all so much for taking the time to reply and I shall certainly keep using this site and try the chat room.