Family support

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FormerMember

10 Jan 2014

Well, now I'm grumpy

I gave up a well paid job to look after Dad 2 years ago when he had mobility problems but since September and recent meso diagnosis has needed me for all his care/meals and is housebound.

My brother is retired, doesn't live locally and isn't involved with Dads care but has said he wants to meet with Dads doctors, speak to Dad as he must get a Power of Attourney and he wants to use a friend to pursue legal mattters. It's the way he wants to support us. Dad is still on the button mentally and I believe that he should make all his own decisions and I will protect his right to do so.

My sister works full-time and picks up shopping for me which really helps. She's off on holiday skiing for a week and tells me all about her plans and how little time she has to cover me for a few hours so I can have a break to spend a couple of hours with my husband or go walk my dog. I suppose I'm put out because I have no financial capacity to take a holiday and also no-one to look after Dad.

I never imagined my life being like this but am coming to accept that this is okay.

The icing on the cake is that the dog has eaten my glasses and I don't have a spare pair

Next time I blog I hope it won't just be a whinge fest

FormerMember over 11 years ago

Hi Maz, I'm impressed with your typing skills seeing as your dog just ate your glasses, must be a bummer hardly being able to read what you wrote, or perhaps you have them all cellotaped together :-)

Quite right about what you say concerning your dad making his own decisions while he can and seeing as your bro doesn't live locally or is involved, does your bro want you to take on the role, or is he assuming because he is a man he ought to have the POE ?

Have you tried phoning Macmillan on the freefone number to see if there is someone locally who could arrange for your dad to have a weekend or so stay in respite so you can recharge your batteries and have some quality time with your husband and dog ?

Just a thought, best wishes, George & Jackie
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FormerMember over 11 years ago

Bless you Maz.

Your Dad is very lucky to have you for a daughter.

Hugs.

Pam
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FormerMember over 11 years ago

Thanks for your comments guys. Dreamthief - I have my laptop screen set up for large print but your comments did make me smile. Pam - ...just, thank you.

Maz
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FormerMember over 11 years ago

My Dad died on 19 January. My sister was on holiday but my brother popped up to say goodbye before he passed away. I must say that I felt privilaged to be there at the end of his life.

It seems to have been a whirlwind of activity and so much to do. Once the funeral is done I guess I'll go get a job

Maz

PS Tell your people that you love them or just a hug or a touch if you can't say it
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