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FormerMember

9 Sep 2011

Hi all thanx for being around . Im glad alot of people r getting good news and help . sorry im still strugling and feel realy angry as i cant seem to accept that my mum might not be around soon , I go to see my own gp twice a week as my reaction to mums untreatable terminal lung cancer is rely scary and he is realy concerned i cant let myself think of her not being around when ever i speak to her or see her she sounds so bloody normal . Last nights conversation was Dorothy house contacted me today I WANT TO SHOUT OUT go away mum always talks matter of fact like she hasnt heard a word any one has said . any way back to me i feel totally shut down my gp wants me to see the mental health team ass my life is becoming a mess the antidepressents he gave me didnt work he has given me different one s and yes they work,i actually slept for 4 hours wow. funny isn,t it i didn,t the word cancer until recently and will never take it for granted i do think one day i wmight feel normal and grateful much love tracy thanx guys for being around xxxxxxxxxxxx

FormerMember over 13 years ago

I know what u are saying when u say u take things for granted until cancer crawls into your life to turn your whole world as you know it upside down!

Your every thought is my Mum has cancer and it marrs the quality time you need to be having with your Mum.

My thoughts are with you

Bee xx
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FormerMember over 13 years ago

Aw bless you, I can't believe your GP is sending you to a mental health team, you are suffering with shock and grief not any mental issue, you need some support and love. What is normal, i too am scared that life is changing forever and the way I feel will be different forever, it is scary. Are you signed off work? Although it's hard to leave your mum, work will do you good mentally. HUGS xxx
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FormerMember over 13 years ago

Tracy, it sounds like you really need to focus on you for a wee while, to get your strength back. Your Mum does need you, but she needs you well.

You haven't said how supportive the rest of your family are being, although I know your brother was chasing things up with the Doc. Please make sure your getting the support you need too. While the thought of the Mental Health team may sound a bit daunting, they are only there to help and will be focussing on making sure you have the support you need to get through this. If I were you I'd take every bit of help I can get at the moment, but your nearest and dearest need to be showing support too.

Please look after yourself and keep in touch to let us know how your doing.

Lots of love, Ann x
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FormerMember over 13 years ago

Hi Tracy,

Ann is right, yet again :) The mental health team is there to support you and help, whats more they do (previous experience).

I am in the same position as you mum has just been given the same news.

No one deserves to suffer this terrible illness and it affects us all carers and sufferers alike. What is certain is none of us can face this alone accept the help. If you want to scream do it, just make sure you don't shut yourself off from friends or family. There is one thing I know for a fact is when you do that it makes everything harder.

Lots of hugs Helen xxx
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