Is it wrong as a son & carer to think about myself

No Andy, I don't think you are being selfish at all my love. I suggest you go and see if you are able to have a joint tennentcy agreement with your dad so if something does happen you will still have a home. Life still as to carry on even when we are not around love, so stop feeling guilty, you have nothing to feel guilty for......love Carol x

no its not selfish ,i cared for my husband 24-7,all sorts of thoughts went through my mind and felt guilty for them .Your life is put on hold to care for our loved one ,its human nature to want to know what the future holds.

Be kind to yourself

Hugs

Sharonx

Thanks its nice to know its not just me i'll try and get a better handle on things and not feel as bad for having certain thoughts thanks again.

Hi, Sorry to hear about your dad. It's a shock and hard to digest in a short space of time, you have done a very selfless thing to give up work and move in to take care of dad - don't be hard on yourself.

You are caring for your dad but are right in thinking you need to be ok later on. You can make one phone call to the local council and register as living at your dad's, it will add you to the council tax banding also :( Then inform the Housing Association and I think most have a policy of the 'tenancy' passing on to the next of kin... i.e. you will be entitled to housing but if you are in a 2 bedroom at the moment they might ask you to swap to a 1 bedroom etc.

Its important to know where your future will lie.

Take care, hope things work out ok xxxx

Thanks rizzo i'll look into it , i think i'll be ok.Just concentrating more on looking after my dad ,but thanks again its just a bit of pressure of knowing certain things can be done or are in place just incase.