Feeling weepy

Hi Abs61,

Heavens there is nothing wrong with feeling weepy. You have so much going on right now. I do not know much about your stage or treatment so please tell us a little bit more so we can help & NO you are not prattling on !

Love & Hugs 

Oh my, you've got such a lot on your plate, no wonder you're feeling weepy.  Sometimes it helps to have a good cry and let it all out.  Sounds as if you're being very strong for everyone else, but you need someone to support you too.  Make use of the helplines both on this site and talk to your nurse if you have one.  It really does help to talk things over.  Every one of us in this forum has felt down and weepy at times. Sometimes the brave front we put on for the family just cracks.  Hope you feel a bit better soon, and know there is lots of support here,

xx

Hi Angie,

I'm still awaiting results but I'm inclined to think it goes with the territory. Like you, I am limited in who I can talk to about what's going on and finding it increasingly difficult to keep it together for everyone else's sake.  The people I've told what's going on are of the "get some rest, hope for the best" approach. It has its place but sometimes I need to talk about what's happening, or have someone else pick up.other responsibilities or just have a little tea and sympathy.  

Thankfully I found the lovely ladies in this group and it's really helped, everyone's so supportive and knowledgeable too.  It's absolutely ok to cry and you're not prattling on- what you're going through is tough and it sounds like you're already coping with alot. Someone sent me a gentle hug when I joined this group a few days ago, so I'm sending you one too. 

Keep in touch,

Rose x

Hi Just 65 

Thank you for your reply, it actually felt good to be told it was okay to feel weepy. I was only diagnosed about 3 weeks ago and since then I’ve had a pre admission assessment, an MRI and my CT scan is on Friday morning so it’s been a bit of a whirlwind.  I think maybe everything I’ve got going on this week just got to me. Thanks again for your support.

Best Wishes 

Angie

Hi Jigsaw33

Thanks for your reply and kind wishes. I think you might be right about the putting on a strong front, it’s something I’ve always done. I’m going to have to get used to asking for help from other people. Thanks again for your suggestions and support.

Best Wishes 

Angie

Hi RoseG

Thank you for your reply, I’ve still got my CT scan to get on Friday and then I’ll be waiting for the results. Hope your results  go well.  I’m thinking I might fair a bit better if I take things one day at a time instead of trying to handle everything at once and totally overwhelming myself. Thanks again for your help and support.  I’ll keep my fingers crossed for your results being good, and thank you for the hug it was greatly appreciated.

Best Wishes

Angie

Hi . Angie you know what your feeling is perfectly normal its still raw your diagnosis and something's will just trigger the emotions inside us. You have a lot to cope with and all the extra stress of wanting to support your daughter too even though your going though such hardship there is a word for it - strength. It comes in all forms but we do have to just get on with it, nothing going to change not dealing with it and trying not to feel that way,or maybe feeling silly for feeling weepy, you hear all ways people cope. A few weepy moments is your mind trying to process the pure shock of diagnosis and and wanting to ensure that everything is sorted out for your daughter, its OK not to be OK. It may actually be a good thing that with writing everything down for your daughters appointment maybe sharing the worries you have will help you to deal with what happens next. Covid-19 has certainly caused extra stress among people too and the limitations it in tails.

But we are here to listen, to share because it really helps to cope with the emotions. Nothing too big or small or too silly to ask either.

Sending you a and your daughter a gentle hug

Hi Abs61

Another vote for having a good cry, or even some screaming into a pillow. Also move your body if you're able - a walk in nature or a little dance in the kitchen to the radio. Anything that helps to shift your energy a bit will help you deal with your emotions. It's all normal and it's better to let them out that numb them or hide them.

x

Hi GBear, There you go again coming to my rescue with good old fashioned common sense and understanding. Thank you for your help, time and patience. I feel like I’m inundating this forum with my problems as it just seems to be one thing after another at moment. I guess I’m so used to dealing with everything myself and being everyone’s go to person, I’m having difficulty processing the fact that I’m going to have to start being the one asking for help, and that it’s okay to do that and if needed have a right good cry. Thanks again for your help and support.

Best Wishes 

Angie

Hi Abs,

I know where you are coming from regarding asking for help!  After years of looking after 2 girls and running around after them, their children and my husband, I decided it was my turn to be looked after and  accept any help.

I quite enjoyed it, for once!! No meals to cook, someone else washing up. My husband actually admitted to how much I did one day, and said he was worn out!!! Needless to say, I am back to looking after them all, but grateful for that. I also think the Covid situation has taught us we all have to pull together and help each other!

Even the 3 year old grand child insisted on checking my wounds every time she visited !!!!

I had a good cry when I was coming home from hospital. I hurt all over with the movement of the car. I also think it was relief that the operation was over and the cancer gone! 

I'd say- accept any help that's offered, put your feet up and pamper yourself for a bit. You'll be organizing them all again soon enough!!!  xxxxxx