Coping with husband having prostrate cancer

We are here are you.

Just come online and if anyone around we say hello. and chat maybe book you read or film on telly you saw etc etc.

My mobile phone out of the ark so just got home computer so if I am online and you put post up  on no specific topic and I see it I chat and am sure all forum members will do so too.

My hubby was dignosed with Prostate  few months ago

He has just had his 2nd Chemo.

I too get stressed.

His white blood cells count was  low but phew  it was on level it still can be done.

Wishing all the best.

Helllo Pots, I’m sorry to hear of your stress. For me, the stress and the tears leading up to and through the radiotherapy were totally unmanageable! At about day 10 of radiotherapy I was on my knees. Our daughter stepped in at that point and did the driving for the next five days. When I resumed driving we were well and truly on the last stretch. For a short while after the RT we felt quite ,dazed’. Then, suddenly we started to pick up the reins of everyday life and after the worst 6 months of our lives we started to really live again. 

just hang on in there! Just 10 more sessions and you will have the worst of this journey hopefully well and truly behind you! 

I know that life won’t ever be quite the same again but hopefully the treatment will have, at the very least, bought precious time for our husbands and, at the very best, achieved a cure. Our worry just confirms very much how much our menfolk mean to us and how scared silly we are about seeing them suffer or having to live without them. they are very natural human emotions reacting to a scary diagnosis but these feelings do become more manageable in time!

I hope you feel reassured that you are not alone in finding this journey so very difficult and that the next 10 sessions go well and you get wonderfully low PSAs as a result and feel you can achieve a bit of ‘calm’ again.

good luck and let us know how you both get on. I will be thinking about you!

Hello Pots and welcome to the Prostate forum, I see you are also on the melanoma forum too - I am so sorry that it's a "double whammy".

From the male side of things we men feel that it's "our cancer" and we are fine in dealing with it and getting on with life and don't want to cause you any anxiety. HT/RT is pretty easy going compared to other treatments and there is no pain - there are side effects, the worse one being fatigue.

He will be like most men - he will be bottling it up and trying to carry on as normal, the hunter/gatherer!!!!

Personal feeling, just remind him that it's a joint "journey" and you are there for him - he needs to chill and share things with you and the family, and even though you haven't put up his diagnosis remember to tell the family his treatment is either curable or with a view to being curative 

I hope this helps, and fell free to come back and let off steam if you so wish - we are all here for both of you.

Best wishes

Brian,

Thank you for your kind wishes. Hope things are going well with you pots

Hi Pots

i can relate all too well. My husband was diagnosed May and is on HT and Abiraterone and Prednisolone but doesn’t start his radiotherapy until 20th November. it’s definitely very stressful but you're doing the right thing by coming here and getting support, we all need it at times. You have already been through such a lot yourself so it’s good to get support here and just sometimes writing it all down is therapeutic.

sending you a big hug.

Linda

Hi linp 

thank you. It is so much to take in when you hear the word cancer. Hope you’re getting plenty support. Pots