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Hi Lizzie 

firstly I’m so sorry your all in this situation I can say from personal experience I told close family ie wife and two of my three kids as the youngest was too young to have the worry until I was actually diagnosed!! And a small group of work frids knew all the way through!! I cannot imagine the stress you are going through I can say that talking has helped me so much !!! But on the other hand if I’m not in a good place people leave me alone without questioning why!! Which again helps so much. Suggest telling maybe 1 or  2 people we all need that release 

I wish you all the best with your own bumpy road as we all have or have traveled xx

Thank you so much for your response.  I’m pleased to hear you got support from close friends.  I think it is very important.  I live in hope that my hubby will realise that at some time in the future.  I hope your health improves.  Kind regards.

Lizzie 

your welcome I’m always here if he wants to chat to someone neutral

as anyone here would do the same I’m sure

good luck 

and the offer is there 

Hi Lizzie

I was similar when diagnosed in 2013.

I told very few people and left out a lot of relatives who still don't know to this day 

Some people can be helpful when u tell them but not everyone.

Sounds like he's talking about it with nearest and dearest so that's fine.

You certainly don't want to be talking about it all the time.

Steve

Hello Lizzi, after my diagnosis of Advance prostate cancer that had spread to my hip bone after the intial shock I told eveyone in my family personally including my children and friends. Personally felt this was the most appropriate way and came to terms with things and importantly they were able to support me through the palliative Radiotherapy treatment to the bone mestasis and the 6 weeks after to the prostate. I have sought advice from Macmillan and Maggie's centre in Newcastle which has been very helpful. Keeping things bottled up I think causes more problems and we all have enough to contend with. I also have an excellent Cancer care Co-ordinatorwho is very supportive. You need to have that burden on your shoulders lifted. Maybe a chat with Macmillan or similar can offer a way forward for you, your husband and your loved ones.

Wishing you all the best, Graham. 

Hi Graham, thank you for your good advice, it’s very much appreciated.

kind regards

Lizzie