Hello there , I tried to phone dads consultant today but again no answer so I left a lovely lengthly voice message to his personal assistant , I’m hoping I will get a call on Monday with a plan of action , dad seemed bright today let the carer wash him ( only in his bed ) changed his tshirt boxers brush his teeth and cut his nails, I say that’s a good day as he doesn’t usually let them do a thing he just says his daughter will do it which again I think is unfair on me and wasting the ladies time , so now I’ve told him he’s got to engage with them but he feels so embarrassed he said , also my mum came to dads today with chicken and all veg with some gravy and we mashed it up on a plate and he ate it all so I’m thinking of doing it again for him , it’s not that he can’t eat solid foods but this eating buisness isn’t great at the moment so today well yes a good day all round
he wanted to do his word puzzle and then he asked to check his banking online ( again really shocked ) because he’s not been interested what so ever !
I asked him if anyone had called his mobile he said no but I do have to check because he tells lies when the nhs have actually rang him because he’s in denial
quick question … does anyone have any tips on how I can get my dad in the actual shower , he’s a really clean man and I can’t understand why all of a sudden this showering had stopped , he said it’s too cold and that it’s a traumatic time for him because of the pain but I honestly think it’s the depression getting to him I really do
I want him to have a shower it’s my aim for the up coming week !! I have showered him before so it’s not that
As he is getting weaker because he isn’t on no treatment I think he’s giving up on his hygiene, there is a chair in the walk in shower so no exuse at all , and I would do it all for him so again no exuse
You are a star 
️ and deserve a 
I’m certain there will be a plan soon.
Home made food that’s also comfort food will turn the eyes of the most ferociously sulky man, I assure you. Great job on the food.
Showering. It’s a funny thing. I used to shower everyday and last week showered only once. I had no events to go to home or away which meant I wasn’t in parade but the other problem with pain is, “I’m not doing that if I’m in more pain after than before!”. So it’s only when the shower seat is safe, the slippery floor is not going to kill me due to help that I want helping, and my toes are dried by towel while I struggle on my pants.
All I’m saying (and glad you don’t know me because I’d die of embarrassment) is when I’m ready I’ll shower. And my routines are not in place because every bloody day the pains in a different place and hurts me differently. Me and my body are not happy. When we are thing will change.
Thanks only my advice about how I am recently.
Good luck
