Wife can't deal with treatment

Hi HP - I am sure I have seen other posts from you however, remember we are here for you going through HT and RT.

We are all with you on your journey -any problems / issues give us a shout.

There is also a thread "no specific topic" where a few of us try and put the world to rights where you are most welcome to join in - we are daft but that comes with the diagnosis.

Hope it all goes well for you but it's a journey!!

Kind Regards - Brian.

It's the fact that she can't stand the incontinence 

It can be a problem with radiotherapy, too, I think? Certainly there is an ‘urgency’ to get to the loo on time in our household ( husband finished RT in March!)

My incontinence since surgery hasn’t really been a thing . It’s little drips - you don’t drop your load - and pads cover it up well . I use one a day , not soaked,  after 18 months . And I had a big prostate , and it’s almost better now . The main problem has been psychological, it’s taken a while to get libido back . I’m 70 , so I think it’s not likely to be q problem for someone younger . Bill

Ah many thanks the way the info sheet tells the story in bad light 

W.W,

Brilliantly put, so many bits that resonate with me. I was having a really selfish moment today, I was sitting in a shady part of the garden getting out of the heat and all I could think of was that I felt trapped and I just wanted to walk out and leave.  It went as soon as it came into my head, I think it was also about viewing my own mortality and a ticking clock of what's next for both of us as well as the fear of losing the man I've loved for decades. I'm not ready. I think as wives and partners we are allowed explore our own fears and have the odd moment of madness and unreasonable behaviour. I'm with Mrs Mustardo, sometimes you just want to refuse to accept what's happening in the wild hope that it will just go away.

Hope the surgery goes well for you Mustardo and you have a quick recovery, then you can put this all behind you.

L

Many thanks all these messages are so so helpful sometimes I forget its not just me 

Yes I tend to agree with that , 

So good to chat and what a lovley bunch of people are on here so helpful 

Hello L

i know that, like me, you have fought tooth and nail for your husband, and if you are even more like me, you will have found it exhausting. There seems no escape from the constant worry! I also agree with:

 I think it was also about viewing my own mortality and a ticking clock of what's next for both of us as well as the fear of losing the man I've loved for decades. I'm not 

unfortunately we can’t magic it away <sigh> so we have to make the most of what we’ve got here and now!