Just lost temper at husband feel bad

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Husband has advanced terminal prostrate cancer.Diagnosed Early October..

He just sits and sleeps everytime I wake him for TV he is never asleep.

Just made him walk around garden had to call him 4 times to come,then when we get back in,I make a drink and he is stood looking out of window,his eyes shut still garden shoes on,so I say you fell asleep,he was short with me (he can be a nasty sod sorry to say even pre cancer) he wasnt asleep so I said no just stood with eyes shut wobbling and your garden shoes on,he came back ready for an argument and thats when I lost it.

Now feel guilty .

I cant believe he is now talking as if he is asking a question,there is no one there! I am in lounge.

At times he is so vacant I fear early dementia as he hasnt a clue.

Its so hard as I have mobility issues of my own so know when time comes I cannot care for him but you know at times I know he puts it on,how wicked is that?He enjoys attention,he even told his daughter he has 2 months to live,not true,we dont know but 1st chance we get I will ask for an estimate etc..

I know at times he is in awful pain but has strong pills to help now also evil sweats he has just gone onto 3 monthly injections which help.

So sorry putting all this on here but I feel so alone with it,he wont help himself at times ,he is hard of hearing but wont use his hearing aids only to watch TV,my day consists of "Sorry What" and me repeating myself over and over..

Louise

Seamus47 over 2 years ago

loumar Sorry to hear of your situation. If there is a Maggie's Centre near you, give them a call as they can help. Otherwise call the Macmillan nurses on this site and they may be able to assist you. There's also the nurses on the Prostate Cancer UK website who can help you with phone advice.

Thinking of you.

Yesterday is history, tomorrow is a mystery and today is a gift.

Seamus

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Andy100 over 2 years ago

Hi Louise

I am so sorry to learn of your situation and my thoughts are with you during what is clearly a very difficult time for you both.

It does sound to me as if your husband may be suffering from depression as many men have difficulty handling a cancer diagnosis. I certainly did. The early days following diagnosis are undoubtedly the worst.

Seamus is absolutely correct in recommending you to get in touch with Macmillan and also, Maggies Centre, if there is one near by. They are able to offer a wide range of services and will be of invaluable help to you, both now, and in the future.

Can I also suggest that you provide details of your husband's diagnosis in your profile together with details of treatment received to date.

There are numerous people (such as myself) who use this site and have first hand knowledge of this dreadful disease. We are more than willing to help people such as yourself, to answer questions which may not necessarily be provided by your medics.

Very best wishes,

Andy.

loumar over 2 years ago in reply to Seamus47

Thankyou.

freefaller over 2 years ago in reply to loumar

You definitely need to talk to someone about your situation. Call the Prostate Cancer UK specialist nurses on 0800 074 8383, The call lines are open from 9am to 6pm Monday, Tues, Thurs and Friday and open from 10am to 8pm on Wednesday. If there is a Maggies Centre near you then please do go along and ask to talk to someone they are always very helpful and give brilliant help and advice. There may be other cancer self help groups and charities around your area that could give you a listening ear and suggest some help. Your husband really will feel better if he carries on with his normal activities as much as he can. However it is very difficult to explain this to people especially if they are depressed.

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