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Hi Journeyone

I bought the same 6 months ago and your husband in right, they are a great help.

Hi guy's I fully agree with you, cool pads are very good had mine a while, they we're meant for dog's use during heat waves.

I am so pleased that they have given you comfort. My next question is that I am waking up in the early hours of the morning having nightmares regarding prostate cancer, is any of you lovely wife’s having the same. It’s especially when we are coming up to the next chemo session. My anxiety levels are going through the roof but my husband just seems to be dealing with it the prognosis. Any advice would be appreciated. 

Hi, I don't wake up in the night but my husbands diagnosis does occupy my thoughts a lot of the time. Some days more than others. I try to keep busy, my youngest daughter & her baby have been staying this week so a lovely distraction. Again much like yours, my husband seems to be much more at peace with his diagnosis 

Hello Journeyone, like you, I am waking in the middle of the night - every night. My first waking thought is ‘prostate cancer’ and then it all comes flooding back into my consciousness and I can’t get back to sleep and just lie there worrying. I sometimes put a Utube sleep meditation video on the tv with the sleep timer on! Sometimes this works, sometimes it drives me mad! At 4.30 this morning it permitted me 2 extra hours of sleep, only to wake at 6.30 with the same thoughts and unable to get back to sleep.

so, any tips from others would help me to and be very welcome cos I’m getting so very tired!

Hi....my partner has not started chemo yet . We should hear from hospital this week ...MDT meeting this week.....My partner is coping like yours ,it's me that is suffering, crying , I feel I've lost myself . I'm working but then not doing anything else.....I'm getting frustrated.

Hi Susie Lou andJourneyone, I think our menfolk just somehow manage to grit their teeth and get on with it. My husbands philosophy seems to be, ‘it is what it is’ and ‘there is no escaping it’. 

Ditto! If the tears would stop, if I felt less angry and frightened, and all- consumed by this , life would be easier!

I asked the Dr can we go away ,he said not yet . We have a cruise booked for France and Ireland in July , Dr said maybe should be ok then said but don't forget things can change, it's frightening me ..... really hope we can go and looking at centre parks for Xmas .....it's all worry.

Hi girl's, we guy's do accept our diagnosis in time, after all there's nothing we can do about it so just go with the flow, unfortunately you girls not only worry about our cancer you have to put up with us, and the worry of losing us, I think you're all wonderful, I've had counselling so if you don't mind may I ask you to consider counciling, just ring Macmillan help line and discuss you worries with them, they are there for you as well as us, go on give them a ring you have nothings to lose