Pancreatic cancer

Sincere condolences Montu500. Thats very nice of you wanting to give back. I was diagnosed with bowel cancer in April and mustsay its still strange to even say it. I had the cancer removed in the same month and everthing happened so quickly. With very little family support Im trying tocarry on with a massive change to my lifestyle

I lost my husband of nearly 28 years to pancreatic cancer in April and was diagnosed 12 months earlier. I’m absolutely heartbroken but find that if I have a good sob several times a day I can get through and be strong for my children. It’s hard when I’m surrounded by memories everywhere I look but I have to remember the good times we had & hope that the traumatic painful memories will start to fade. I find it so hard to make decisions without him but I try to make him proud of me and I have 3 sons to look after me. I tend to dwell on the things we weren’t able to do rather than things we had achieved together so I have a constant battle with myself wishing I had done that for him or said this or rather wished I had not said others. Grief is very hard but then you can never prepare yourself for the loss. It’s as if your mind will just not let you go there and you can’t imagine what life will be like on your own. My husband was so positive and tried so hard to live he wanted to stay with us for as long as possible. I will never forget his bravery. He was a lovely husband and father with a fantastic sense of humour and I see him in my boys every day. We will make him proud of us it’s what helps us to carry on without him. 

im sure your wife lived much longer because she wanted to stay with you and her determination to live her life & carry on with her baking &gardening. I hope you are able to remember the good times to get you through the bad. Take care of yourself & make her proud of you.

sending you a virtual hug x

Pinky

It's now nearly seven years since my husband died. In due course you will get used to your new lifestyle. It is very easy to look back and think of what you haven't done but from what you say you had a great life together. In due course you will not dwell on the things you didn't do but on the things you did. I promise you it gets easier.

Squeaky

Sincere condolences