some days are just so hard

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I dont know how to begin it feels like the unsayable. My husband is having further chemo for stage 4 and it feels so overwhelming. He has been having awful side effects terrible diarrohea and I mean terrible. He feels awful beause of hairloss .Hes afraid to stop the treatment and feels depressed.He has already has his dose reduced. When we talk about it to others he mimimises what is happening.Sometimes I look at my beautiful husband and I see someone totally different. He gets irritable so quickley he looks so frail and I just feel so sad and frustrated.Then I feel overwhelmed with guilt. Its just somedays are so incredibly hard and I dont share that with anyone because I want to protect his trust in me. We have been on this journey together a few years and have been celebrating so many milestones together.This part is by far the toughest and if Im honest it sometimes feels like a lonley place to be.

  • Hi, just to say I’m in exactly in the same situation as you with my partner. He is suffering exactly the same symptoms and has also had his dosage reduced.  It is so difficult seeing a man who was healthy reduced to skin and bones and so frail.  I know when he’s irritable that he doesn’t mean it , then I too feel cross then guilty.  I think you live every day with sadness and tears very close to the surface and yes it’s very lonely.   He also minimises what he tells family and friends so I try not to burden them too much.  I think we are on a path where we can only do our best.   Please don’t forget to look after yourself 

  • Thankyou for sharing and understanding . Knowing that you are going through a similar experience makes me want to offer you support too. Its so tough sometimes trying to be strong but then having sleepless nights just feeling overwhelmed by everything.I try to live in the moment but its difficult escaping the fear of the future.Most of all I do hope you also find time to take care of you too.