Hey there all
I am BRCA1 and was diagnosed with Breast Cancer and Ovarian cancer back in 2018. All my operations, chemo etc was a success and I went into remission. Most of my friends were there for me throughout this challenging part of my life. Fast forward to the start of 2022 and my ovarian cancer came back, more chemo which hit me much harder second time round but again I came through it all and now on tablets to keep the cancer at bay. But what has materialised second time round is my friends have dropped like flies, even my best friend of 22 years has disappeared… I am godmother to her child, I’ve helped her through her difficult relationships, helped her find work after her child started nursery and now a year on nothing not even a happy birthday last week….. I’m gutted with the whole situation. I know I have changed my outlook on life, I used to be driven, had a successful company but sold the lot as I had to focus on me and my health.
Have any of you experienced this? I feel like I am in the wrong but I don’t know why.
Hi furtado15
I'm sorry to read that your friends have deserted you since your second cancer diagnosis. That must be very difficult.
I'm fortunate that after being diagnosed twice with cancer I still have the same friends that I did originally as well as making some new ones along the way.
Maybe you could reach out to some of your old friends. They may feel that reaching out to you is difficult as they're not sure what to say. Lots of people do find it very difficult talking to someone with a serious illness because they're scared they'll say the wrong thing, or they don't want to chat about all the nice things that are happening to them because they thinks that's insensitive.
I do hope you're successful in reconnecting with some of your old friends.
"Never regret a day in your life, good days give you happiness, bad days give you experience"
