Words of wisdom

FormerMember
FormerMember
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Hi everyone

 I don’t know where to start, I’ve been reading through the message boards and everyone is so supportive so thought I’d ask some questions.

 My mum was diagnosed with stage 4 cancer in December 2019, she had a growth in her womb and it had spread to her bowel. After receiving Taxol every 3 weeks she had surgery in May that was deemed successful, they did a full hysterectomy and all signs of the spread were gone. Fast forward to December 2020 and her CA125 had gone up to the 80s and a scan showed it was back with spots on the out side of her lungs and again her bowel. She started taxol once a week for 3 weeks, week off cycle for 18 weeks and is on a trial drug Cediranib. She feels so rough between bouts of constipation and diarrhoea, she’s going to struggle to get through the 18 weeks. Her BP isn’t great and the stress just elevates it,  knowing dad is outside on a parking meter for 6 hours every time just worries her, and you can imagine what dad is like.  Because of COVID she’s on her own with treatment, consultants, scans and results. We can’t ask questions and mum is too scared to. I’m was just wondering if any one else has taken the trial drugs, or been in the same position and got through it second time around. I want to give support but google can be so scary I can’t look at it any more. She hasn’t had a CA125 result since she started, her scan and full bloods were yesterday with results on Tuesday, again on her own, it’s so scary.

 Thanks in advance, C x

  • FormerMember
    FormerMember

    I haven’t any real advice to give, but the best I can think is to make sure she writes down any questions in advance of her appointments, and if they’re in-person appts, write the answers down as she gets them. If they’re phone appts, speaker phone and have either you or your dad (or both!) with her. 

    the hospital may have given her a care coordinator/Macmillan nurse - if so, use them! They’re brilliant at answering questions and following things up. 
    Best wishes to your mum and all of you. You must all be so scared. But I hope the treatment goes well x

  • Hi C,

    I just wanted to say that even though it said in my appt letters that you were supposed to attend on your own, I always took my husband with me, often he would wait outside until I was about to go in to see consultants /drs, who I always asked is it ok for my husband to come in with me and they said yes every time, and were very supportive of him being in with me as it gave me an extra pair of ears  and made notes.

    One receptionist once said to me, your supposed to be only you and when I said “ yes maybe but the dr is about to tell me I have ovarian cancer so I think it’s ok to have my other half in with me for that sort of news” she couldn’t apologise enough then.

    So try that next appt, it will certainly help you and your dad .....they can only say no. Try not to google,it’s old and out of date a lot of the time, with nothing positive...

    take care lovely x

    Sue