I have been diagnosed with stage 2b melanoma awaiting results of sentinel node biopsy taken 2 weeks ago. My site is my temple where I had a 2cm wide excision, I had 2 dressings done at the hospital and have no desire to see the wound at present, it's deep. Hospital nurses were fine about my decision, I had to contact the GP surgery to make a nurse appointment to have the sites to be checked, next week. I spoke to the nurse made her aware of my feelings at present and did not feel validated. I am worried about am I being stupid about not wanting to see the wound. My partner is supportive.
This is perfectly normal, I was shocked to see my scar, although I had an idea of what it would look like. It’s quite something else to actually see it when the dressing comes off. Take your time and do it at your own pace - you will get used to it quite quickly 
Hi
definitely not stupid my wider excision was so much bigger than anticipated on left side of my chin with a flap pulled up from my neck the a scar on jawline from jaw to ear to remove node even the surgeon said to me it’s much than you thought it was going to be I said absolutely
sux weeks down the line though swelling has gone down and well healed my hospital did a lot if the work on my face prior to healing fully I went every two weeks for them to review it and make sure was going in right direction they also provided me with camouflage appointment to choose scar cover make up and prescribed so my doctor gives me on prescription my hospital trust have been incredible and not once have I felt an inconvenience
Seeing the wound just makes you realise what you have and are going through not everybody is ready to deal with those feelings just do in your own time never feel guilty and found it very hard to accept and put all the correspondence out of sight till I was ready to deal with it in my own time
Good luck going forward 
CMK
