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oh, poor you, that must've been such a shock and so scary for you. Have you got any support? Your mind must be racing and that's totally understandable. I hope you don't have to wait too long for your tests and results. Hopefully you'll feel more in control when you have some idea of the treatment plan. Lot's on here are so kind and give great support. I wish you well xx

Thank you so much for your kind response. It’s very difficult I have a teenage daughter and another daughter who has just finished uni at home but they aren’t aware of full extent yet as I don’t feel it’s right to tell them until I know exactly what I’m dealing with. Single parent they lost their dad 2019 after mental health suicided so trying to shield them for now

You will find a number of people on here have had the same problem. Yes we understand you are scared but it's not the end. I had 80mm colon removed in 03 then last yea 8mm removed from my lung. I feel I'm back to my normal self. just because your lung one is inoperable doesn't mean un treatable. There are a number of options they will offer you and probably will get rid of it for you. It's bloody annoying but here we are.. Stay positive and go along with the treatment. I'm feeling fine so there's no reason why you shouldn't be the same after your treatment. Stay positive

Sure that’s great so pleased to hear you are doing so well. I’m trying especially hard and will continue to do so and with messages like these it will certainly help me. Thank you

ah bless you. I'm sorry you've so much to cope with. I get the protecting your children bit, I did that, too, at least until you know what's going on and you feel more in control of things. Come on here and sound off when you need to, or chat to one of the Macmillan team. It all helps! x

Hi Mrslv welcome to the group but sorry you have had to join us here. I am not surprised you are feeling scared with all of this, you have a lot to take in, and trying to shield your girls from it must be very hard. When I was first diagnosed with womb cancer (16 years ago this week) my girls were very young, my elder 2 were teenagers and they were aware of my situation, but I hid it from my younger daughter who was only 8 at the time. I too was a single parent. When it came back in my lungs 5 years later, my eldest was just leaving uni, my middle daughter was starting uni, and my youngest was in the senior school. I was given the wrong information at the time, by a respiratory doctor, who told me I had 6 months to live, so I told my girls, and the youngest was really cross with me because I hadn’t told her about my previous cancer diagnoses. From that day she made me promise I tell her everything, so I do. She had counselling at the time that Macmillan arranged for her, and she’s just finished another course of counselling that she arranged for herself, some 11 years later. Her school was also very good with her, they allowed her time to leave the class if it was too overwhelming for her, and were really a great support. It’s a difficult one, and I am not sure what the correct answer is, whether to tell the girls or not, but if you do there is support to help you to do this. I would suggest phoning the Macmillan support line and speaking to someone there, it is a free call number and they are available 7 days a week from 8am until 8pm on 0808 808 00 00. 

Wow you have overcome so much it’s inspiring being on here. Thank you for your response. You’re right I’m just wanting to be in the most well informed position before I tell anyone. At the moment I’ve only got a handful of people aware of where I’m at right now and it’s hard but hopefully it won’t be too long before I know more and have a plan. It’s great being able to sound off on here. Xx