Support for family members

Hi Christine, 

Hi Christine,

I don't know if you're legible but there is Maggie's centre at The Clatterbridge Cancer Centre on the Wirral if you can get there. You could get in touch  first 

www.maggiescentres.org/.../

Best wishes

Lorna

• I really don't know we're to Starr here I have a son at 28 7ears old in out of his relationship I was a single mum for many years didn't have support from his dad just me and my family I've always worked made mis5akes like any parent but always had a roof over head I have 3 step sons and 3 adorable grand children I'm married and very happy with in my life my family are amazing and we are copeing with this journey I'm 51 got terminal lung cancerwhich has spread yo chest and lipnones I'm stage 4 uncruble the first few months was really hard just comming to terms with the diagnosis but we have excepted now and make most of everyday and appriate everything we have my husbands amazing he's my rock my problem is my son I'm trying to keep my head above the struggles had a problem with liver my body rejecting it was in hospital all Christmas week on high steroids but doing well at moment everybody apart from my son has had vacation he won't have it and I have no immune  system since been unwell our relationship seems to have broke he's using cocane regularly it's like he's a changed person all he goes on about is mental health his mental health even though a lots to do with the drugs he's taking doesn't help but  I just carnt believe that he doesn't phone to see how I am are if he does its when he's had something  it's now come to point in my life were I don't want to ever be selfish and always been there for him but I feel I have the biggest fight on my hands in life I'm ever going to have everyday is a struggle but I keep my chin up  am I wrong in thinking this way I feel like he really doesn't care about me sometimes everyone phones see how I am apart from my son are when he does he goes really deep  it's hard as if anything does happen I have peace and good in my life and don't want any stress are sadness around me were do I turn x

I think your son is probably caught up in his own mental health which can impare your thinking and probably doesn't realise the impact it's having on you. Mental health that is out of control is hard fo understand because they probably don't realise what they are doing. Have a chat with him and let him know how you feel about the drugs and that you would like to spend more time with him. I'm sure he will come round. Some people grieve before their loved ones pass away and that's maybe what he is doing. We are going through something similar and know how you feel. Praying for you all. 

Thank you I