Hi all, my partner was diagnosed with lung cancer on June 30th. We weren't told directly but I saw in notes that it's stage 4. She was due to start immunotherapy imminently but yesterday they turned round and said she was now too ill to have it and has only "short weeks" left. Obviously we're both devastated but at the back of my mind I keep thinking can this be right when in some ways she doesn't seem that ill (yet). I guess I'm looking for reassurance that this seems plausible and that it's not just due to cost cutting or something! Should we try get a second opinion or go private or something? Or just try accept it? We knew it was terminal so had planned to be positive about the immuno and work towards some (modest) bucket list items, but it feels like even that has been taken away from us now. What does "short weeks" even mean? 1? 2? 3?? How will we know if people want to say goodbye?? This is all so sudden.
Hi Newbie newbie That is such devastating news for you and your partner. What had happened I wonder, in between them agreeing to immunotherapy and their recent prognosis. Did your partner have a scan in between?
Everyone is entitled to a 2nd opinion, you need to ask your partner’s oncologist about this. They will arrange for this to take place. This is a very common practice and something that your partner’s oncologist will be used to doing.
This has come as a very huge shock for you and your partner. If you need to speak to someone to help you through this difficult time please do call the Macmillan support line on 0808 808 00 00.
