Kidney removal

I expect there is a degree of delayed shock/stress. I would say it took me 6 months to feel sort of back to normal! And I didn't have worried parents to add to the mix. I am 75, 2 years on from kidney removal, and my other kidney is compensating very well. It has grown and its function is good. Maybe that might reassure them a little. Look after yourself x

Thankyou. Possibly. Think there was a bit of denial to begin with. 

Hi Nanni, I’ve been on treatment for over 4 years and I still get overwhelmed by my emotions at times, I think it’s our bodies way of releasing all the pent up emotions.

Thankyou. Take care 

Parents will always worry about their children.  It comes with the job description the day the baby is born.   Mum of 2 here (25 & 22 years).  

When you tell your parents you have cancer it really can rock the boat, especially if the parents have no similar health issues themselves.  

Then there is the factor that it is easier to cope with your own cancer because you are the nearest stakeholder.  Like "in control" but you're never in control of your own cancer.  

So, for parents, I think it can be really difficult because as the elder generation, they are "supposed" to get health issues first.  Then it's not their cancer so they may not know what's going on or don't understand it.  

My mum cried when I told her I had cancer in March 2022.  But apart from that time they've been really good. They just let me get on with it and don't ask anything.  This approach suits me fine.  I don't want to give them loads of details, or for it to become a discussion item, and then I may need to manage their anxieties.  No thank you! 

Thank you. Yes I still worry about our son and he has his own children. To begin with I was reluctant to share my diagnosis as did not want family to worry. However I knew that I had to. The support I have had is amazing with plenty of hugs.