Husband newly diagnosed

Afternoon Cairen, welcome to the group I'm really sorry to hear your news, it is a lot to come to terms with, but a positive mental attitude is key going forward. Living with cancer is still living and it's important to make the most of every day. I was diagnosed with stage 4 with tumors in my osophagus and lymthnode near my kidney. I was also told at the time that I was incurable, but things have changed and I have a potential path out of this. I am a lot younger though so more likely to react well to treatment, but others from this forum have reached out to me who were older and also stage 4 who have had there fortunes change. This is obviously not case for everyone, but never give up hope and keep fighting. This is a great community who are hear to help, don't hesitate to ask questions in here for what to expect and tips along your journey as we are all here to help.

Thank you so much for your reply and I'm.so.glad.there seems to be a light at the end of the tunnel for you. Hubby is a bit of a technophobe so that's why I'm here not him but I read him your messag He's just come home from having 2 stents put in and he says he can feel a difference already

Hi Cairen, welcome to the group, Vinny has put you in the picture, I have come onto your post as I am a lot older 71, this is my second bout of battling Cancer the first on comparison to this one was a lot easier an operation to remove my voicebox and get over that and readapt to using a voice prothesis, this one is chemo and radiotherapy and it isn't easy, I am in my  4th week of 5 and it does wear as it goes on but don't let it get either of you down which it may well do about half way, ask your Husband to always speak with anyone and everyone if he has the slightest problem and as you seem to be supporting him go to the clinic days with him as he may not remember what they say or forget something, they should have given or will give him a book My Cancer Traetment Journal to record any reactions etc with each chemo session.

What is the draining part is the daily grind of having to go, I still work and if I was in the office it wouldn't bother me but this for some reason is different.

Hope all starts well and you know where we all are

Take Care

Tony

Hi Tony, thank you so much for the information and I hope everything goes well for you. We do have the cancer treatment book, I've started filling it in already. I will definitely be at every appointment with him, he has a head like a seive already lol. I was his full time carer before the cancer diagnosis so I'm used to taking notes. We aren't sure of his treatment path yet only that they said it would likely be palliative chemotherapy. He has so many other health issues to contend with which is a worry but we are definitely going into it with positivity. Many thanks again for the support x

Hi Cairen 

You have already had some lovely replies, but I just wanted to drop by and say hello. 

My Husband was diagnosed in May 2020, and today although still having treatment he is doing really well. 

This is a great/friendly forum, and it has a mountain of information within it, but there are also some other forums, like the Family and Friends  Forum which may offer you an alternative area of support, it is a place where those on the sidelines can share their experiences also. 

I am in in and out of the forum and have had some fantastic support over the past 22 months... and if you have any questions at all, feel free to ask. 

Wishing you both the very best

Lowe'

Thank you for your lovely reply, I'm so glad your husband is doing well. I'll have a look at the friends and family forum.

Many thanks

Cairen x

Hi Cairen my husband was diagnosed two months ago whilst we were on holiday. Not offered surgery but just started chemotherapy. I found this support forum really informative in ways I can help support him. It's a lot to come to terms but good to know there's somewhere we can come to for advice