Hi Everyone
I have recently be diagnosed with stage 2b cervical cancer. As with everyone is came as a bit of a shock to me, especially as in the past year I have had medical treatment for polops on my womb as well as the marina coil fitted for HRT, but the tumour wasn’t picked up and my symptoms were being put down to the menopause.I’m in the process of receiving all my appointments with a view to start treatment within the next too weeks with radiotherapy and chemo etc.
I am so lucky as I have so much support around me with family and friends, and even my work has been really supportive. I’m normally a level headed person but am finding myself going through such a roller coaster of emotions I feel like I’m going crazy.
One minute I’m thinking well it is what it is get on with it, then I’m angry as hell, then resentment sets in, then the why me thoughts, how inconvenient thoughts abs the list goes on. It’s early days for me but it’s my own thoughts and emotions that I seem to be struggling with. I even begin to resent people texting or calling to ask how I am, I mean seriously what’s that about, they are such lovely people and I’m so grateful for their support.
Is this normal, what’s other people experience and how do you deal with these days? Any help and advice would be so much appreciated 
Hi Victoria52 and welcome to our group.
I hope you’ll find this a helpful and supportive place to get advice and help with any questions, and a place where you can express how you’re feeling and know we all understand.
It’s absolutely and completely normal to go through all sorts of emotions when you’ve had a cancer diagnosis and your head is spinning with all sorts of thoughts-I would say we’ve all been there! I found it helpful and calming to do breathing exercises and Mindfulness techniques-plenty free phone apps for these. It calms you and makes you focus on the moment rather than letting other thoughts intrude, and your mind running away with itself.
The best piece of advice I think I can give you at this point is to take everything one day at a time, don’t think ahead too far, and focus on getting through everything one step at a time.
I was also diagnosed with stage 2b, and along with many other ladies in the group have been through the same treatment you will be having. Once treatment starts, things will calm down and you have a focus and feel you are actually doing something. It really does become easier. At the moment you’ll still be in that whirlwind time of adjusting to your diagnosis and not knowing quite what lies ahead.
The positive thing is that you’ve found this group and we can all help you through. No question is too much or too personal, and we have a lot of experience of treatments. Sometimes it can be easier to speak to strangers who are not emotionally involved like family and friends, but who understand exactly what you’re going through and how you’re feeling. I literally wanted to shut myself off from people when I was diagnosed-I didn’t want people asking questions and going on about cancer. We all deal with everything in our own way.
Anyway, you are very welcome to be with us and ask us anything you need to know!
Sarah xx
