Sex after hysterectomy

Hi Peace73 

It’s been a long time since I saw your name pop up, so hello again!

I’m not able to give you any relevant advice  as our situations are very different, but I hope others might be able to help. However, I’d absolutely have a word with your oncologist or at least your CNS. When did you last have a check up?

Sarah xx

Hi Sarah 

yes a very long time x I hope you still doing good xxx

I’ve had a lot going on to be fair, but I’m still here…I have updated my profile with my latest info, which is too long to get into!

Sarah xx

Hi Sarah 

All I can say is wow  You really have gone through a lot and still will now for rest of your life. I also had to my gallbladder removed this year (well under 2 months). I’ve now got fibromyalgia too and so in pain everyday with different parts everyday. 
I seems that after the cancer we both (more you than me) have gone on to have worse health. Sending you hugs and I’m glad you’re still here as you have helped me at the start and made me feel heard and cared about. 

Hi Peace73 

I’m just glad to be here even though it’s not easy at times! I found having my gallbladder removed quite straightforward and I hope you did too, but pain every day can be so debilitating in itself with the conditions we now both have to deal with. 

I hope you might get some other replies to your original post-sometimes the group can seem very quiet.

Sarah xx

Hi Peace73,

I'm Lulabell. I also had a radical hysterectomy, followed by chemoradiotherapy in 2022 and I am also struggling having sex.

I have spoken to my gynaecologist and oncologist, who both predicted this would be the case and have given me a lubricating gel, which does help somewhat, but I am not able to have full penetration (sorry to be graphic) because my canal seems so much smaller and it hurts so much.

My husband and I are trying to do other things, besides penetration to try to keep our sex life alive, but to be honest with you, that's happening less and less. It makes me quite sad, as I am only 49 and he is in his 50s. But generally I think positively, that I have been very lucky with my check ups so far etc, so I guess the cup is always half full.

Lots of love to you and anyone who is reading this.

Perhaps you could mention it at your next appointment, they might be able to find you a remedy that works better than mine!

All the best,

Lulabell

Thanks Lullabell for replying x

sorry it’s taken me so long to reply. What with Xmas and its month of my mums funeral 3 years ago I get quite down. 
Anyway we do have sex but one I don’t enjoy it as it hurts. Like you it’s seems when he goes deep which I used to enjoy it hurts. I don’t do the main position that really hurts but I now have fibromyalgia after the cancer and can’t get on top as much as I wish I could. 

I just had my 6 month check up but didn’t bring it up as wasn’t my oncolgyist who I love but another who was rude to me from start.

I hate that I’m not giving him myself to him but I feel why try if I’m not enjoying it.

kelly