Hi everyone.
Im 43 years old, have a 15 year old daughter and been with my partner for 8 years. It hasnt been the easiest if relationships. I was diagnosed with cervical cancer on 6th August. Still waiting on results of MRI and PET scans to confirm staging and the wait is excruciating.
Prior to this id not had a smear since 2014 due toy last one being quite traumatic. I was diagnosed at the time with cervical ectropian that I didn't get treated and passed off symptoms that may have been linked with cancer as due to that belleding after sex and spotting between periods.
Now ive been diagnosed with cancer and my partner is blaming me. Saying that I have ruined our future and if I had got myself checked sooner we may not be in this position
He's saying he's being forced to support me and can't deal with his emotions. He's got angry and shouted at me several times. Shut me out and threatened to leave.
I don't have any family close by and no friends away from work. I feel so lost and alone. Can I do this by myself?
Wow big hugs to you and to be honest I feel the same with my partner I feel like he thinks he has to stay with me out of some sort of guilt because I've got cancer.I don't have any close family after losing my mum and my friends are getting on with there own lives, but if anything cancer has shown me just actually how tough I am and if my partner wanted to leave I wouldn't stop him because I know I'm stronger enough (even if I sometimes don't feel it ) to get through this and it's true cancer doesn't discriminate so it's not your fault in any of this we are just very unfortunate that cancer has picked us.You have a 15 year old who needs there mum there and that will keep you going.As for your partner you need to be supported through this and if he can't do that then maybe it's best he does go.You are going to need all your strength to deal with this and not a child like partner who is only thinking of himself.Always here as I'm sure so will alot of other people on this forum if you want to chat.You need to put yourself first now and look after your health and daughter 
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