Hi newbie here

Hello Nay and welcome to the MacMillan community. I am one of the breast cancer community champions. Although this is a club no one wanted to join there are lots of friendly people who are going through, or have been through similar things. I also lost my hair through chemo, twice. It grew back really well both times and enabled me to realise that I no longer needed to dye my hair. What I had thought were horrible grey roots I needed to continually cover up was actually a lovely silver blonde that looks like highlighted hair. 

It’s tough for people who haven’t been through it to know what it does to us mentally as well as physically. I hope your second chemo goes well. 

Hi Nay.   My daughter braved the shave, and it really helped her.   No more hairs all over the place.   Her hair grew back brilliantly and is now so soft.

I have been through an absolute whirlwind in the past month.   I am still waiting for an oncology appointment to find out what's next.   Mine is stage 2 lobular breast cancer, which has also spread to the lymph nodes - two surgeries and three hospital admissions.

I know what you mean about family and friends.   I know that they mean well, but I do get cross when someone says that they know how I feel.   No-one can possibly know as every single person copes differently.   I don't even know how I feel myself.   I have three strategies: humour, surgery was one way to lose weight; talking too much, more than usual; and wine, not good, but it's survival at the moment and I will sort this out later.   It has all been so fast that I haven't had time to process.   \i'm trying to focus on one day at a time.   I haven't cried once about my cancer but others can't stop crying.  How do you manage? 

Close family and friends are also trying to process their own feelings too.   Are they aware of the support lines and groups available to them?   

Thinking of you x