Newly diagnosed

hello BHope, am so sorry to read you're in turmoil right now. The first reaction to calm your distress a wee bit could be helped with deep breathing exercises,  inhale for 4 seconds, hold for 4 seconds,  exhale for 4 seconds,  hold for 4 seconds and repeat for a few times,  it helps the vegus nerve which, in turn will aid your distress. Definitely helped me when I was first diagnosed....

Thankyou  lovely

Hi  BHope142d8136  

I’m sorry you have to be here, but welcome. 

When I was diagnosed at 46 last year it was a huge shock, so I can empathise with how you are feeling now. This is the worst part. As has already been said, take some deep breaths. Something that helped me was writing in a journal. It really helped to ground me and get all my feelings and worries out and start to process them. I know everything feels really scary right now, but I guarantee when you know more and what your treatment plan will be the panic will lessen. x

Thankyou so much they have said about another biopsy as think spread more in the breast then hear what's the plan,That said so for the plan is 24 weeks chemo then surgery depends on the biopsy resul of part breast or whole ,I'm not bothered I just want to survive IV had diazapam off the doctor as IV gone in to so much panic thankyou so much for the message I really am keen to just start now like I'm a sitting duck.

hugs guys and appreciate the comments immensely x

Bless you . Your words brought back memories of how I felt 10 months ago. I felt that my world had turned upside down. Fast forward to now and I can’t honestly say I’m good mentally. You are experiencing the worst time at the moment because there’s shock,fear, and with me there was anger. All you have is hospital and test and results and at one point every time my phone pinged I panicked. Yes sometimes it isn’t what you want  to hear but when you receive your treatment plan and start treatment you realise that there’s so much out there now that the C word doesn’t mean no hope.  This time last year I was ordering my spring tulips and when they arrived I had just been diagnosed. They arrived and I cried so much because I had it in my head that I wouldn’t even see them flower. I gave them away and this year have ordered more than usual because they will be flowering in my garden and I will love it.  I really hope that you will feel better soon but if you do have down moments do your breathing exercises and maybe speak to one of the brilliant MacMillan nurses or volunteers. They understand how you are feeling and help you through. Hugs

I’m so sorry I’ve just reread my message to you and it said the I’m not good mentally. I meant to write that I am good mentally. So sorry again. X

Thankyou so much so nice to hear positive outcomes and yes I'm angry too we are waiting to know more before we tell our children a little bit because they can see I'm unwell so massive strain so much supporthonestly it's overwhelming xx

Yes it’s definitely overwhelming I agree. When you say that they can see that you are unwell children are very perseptive aren’t they. I can remember when I was in your part of this journey I felt awful.Im not sure exactly how you are feeling but with me I had extreme anxiety which meant extreme fatigue,  The mere thought of food was revolting so much that I lost 2stone rapidly.This plus the thought of getting through Christmas. If you think the symptoms you are feeling could be anxiety please ask for help because I had no idea that anxiety could make you feel so physically sick. X

Yes definitely I have had help with meds to sleep and antisickness injection to try and help be able to eat I'm so glad that how I'm feeling is normal because currently don't feel strong enough it's a massive help thankyou I have been feeling utterly drained our experience sounds very similar x