New to breast cancer

Hey Jess135, firstly I am exactly in your position. I had my appointment on Thursday and now have 2 weeks to wait for the biopsy results. Secondly, I took am emotionally empty. I'm trying to keep busy, walking lots with good music and avoiding being alone with my thoughts for too long. I hope you were well supported when you when for your appointment, the staff who saw me were just lovely, especially as I naively though it would be a quick scan and be sent home, I went on my own... I think it is taking a day at a time, focussing on the information you have and resisting googling (a wonderful friend said this the second I told her of my appointment!) It's so easy to say try not to worry, but it's so hard isn't it? I'm sending you strength and peace. May the days ahead be kind x

I am told by a few people that I am being very strong about it, although I feel I am not and I do keep having my moments. Yes I took my partner with me who is very supportive, but I did go thinking I was just wasting the hospitals time and it would be nothing with me only being 28 years old but clearly not. 
yes it is very hard, my family are very supportive and I am getting married in August so just keep thinking to myself will that happen or will I have to postpone it but I keep telling myself one step at a time. 

Bless your heart ️  I'm a bit older, 40 but I too thought it was all a bit OTT, especially when my GP didn't seem too concerned. I have only told my husband and a few very close friends. My father passed suddenly recently so it all just feels a bit much! 

You probably are being strong and an absolute trooper outwardly but remember to give yourself grace to process it yourself. I think it is fair to say anything with the C word immediately brings anxious thoughts but one day or just one moment at a time. Use your support network, I've started writing down all the good things of the day so I have a fixed point in the day I can look at something positive, may be try that for a day or two. I'm desperately trying to find ways to navigate this and you will too. X

I feel your pain im also waiting for my biopsies and scans results to see what can be done can’t stop crying 

Hi Jess135,  Just thought That I would 

Sorry only half a message

I felt a fraud going to my GP and said that to her as only had a dry nipple she sent me to the breast clinic who thought it was nothing but shocked at the mammogram and ultrasound results I was on my own but said it was ok to tell me and it was positive for breast cancer.

15 months later I have had chemotherapy, targeted therapy and surgery I will be on hormone suppressants for 5years and bone strengthening infusions for 3 years. I was a 75 year old widow who lives alone and thought my life was over - I’m not saying it’s been an easy ride but I am now 76 and with the help of counselling I am getting my life back again.

when you get your treatment plan you feel more in control and can count down the treatments to see the light at end of it all.

God bless and best wishes for your recovery.Xxx

On March 23rd, I had my first exploration of a mass in my right breast. I underwent mammograms, ultrasounds, and a biopsy, though they still haven't confirmed whether the tumor might be malignant. I was told that I would receive a letter with an appointment for discussing the biopsy results. However, instead of receiving the letter, I received a call. Initially, I thought the call was confirming the appointment for my biopsy results, so I noted down the date and time. But just 10 minutes later, I received another call from the same number to schedule the appointment again. I explained to the second person that I had already received the confirmation for the appointment, but they told me that there was no scheduled appointment under my name in the system, which struck me as odd. I ended up keeping the second appointment confirmation.

To my surprise, yesterday—when I was supposed to have the first appointment—I received a call asking why I hadn’t shown up, as it was for a second biopsy. I was completely confused and panicked, as not only did I still not know the results of my first biopsy, but now they were scheduling me for a second one? Is this normal?

English isn't my native language, but I generally understand phone calls well. However, this situation left me in panic, as the pressure of possibly dealing with cancer is already overwhelming, and the waiting time is, for me, even more stressful than the disease itself. What’s worse is that I still don’t have a diagnosis. My follow-up appointment is next Friday, and they rescheduled the second biopsy for Monday. Has anyone else gone through something like this?

Bless you darling, I had a similar experience. On the day of my first clinic appointment they gave me a follow up over 2 weeks into the future and I feared losing my mind during that time. Received a call on the Monday saying they wanted to bring my appointment forward but I had to cut the call short as I had my kiddos (who are for now unaware as even I don't know whet we're dealing with) how I managed to drive home I have no idea but 45 minutes later, shaking like a leaf and throwing up in the garden they told me it was changed simply to allow them to remain in target. I didn't know whether to collapse in relief or go bonkers. I raised it with the service and they were very apologetic. Sometimes things do go wrong and it it horrible to be on receiving end but speaking to them about your experience should help prevent any further issues later. I do hope you are ok, it truly is the worst feeling when you need a sense of organisation and you don't get it. Sending you love and strength x

Thank you so much for your kind words and support, I really appreciate it. It’s comforting to know I’m not alone in this. Even though it’s been tough, talking about my experience has helped me feel like there’s a way forward. Sending you a big hug, and wishing you lots of strength and peace as well. ️

Hi, just wanted to say I was in your position back in December, gp referred me on to hospital, appointment within 2 weeks, told at that appointment I had breast cancer.

I am now 5 weeks post surgery (mastectomy/reconstruction) which was over 3 months since diagnosis.....and now waiting for results for next stage (it'll be 4 months by the time I have next stage)

I wish someone would have told me back then It would be a lot of uncertainty/unknowns for a while.....when I had my referral to hospital within 2 weeks, everything seemed to move quickly and I honestly thought everything going forward would happen quickly and it didn't.

If I could rewind time, I would have carried on life as normal, continued working etc...but instead I stopped working, stopped living almost, constantly waiting for the next appointment/phone call .....and time slowed down! 

I wish someone would have told me the reality of it.

I hope this isn't the same for you and you get answers/plan quickly ...but in the meantime try to live